People often say that it takes a village to raise a child. Well, earlier women opened up about ways their partners tried to make them more comfortable during pregnancy. Then a TV actor also spoke of taking his baby to work so his wife could resume her work as they shared parenting responsibilities.
However, Mirror UK reports that a dad recently received backlash online when he said that he doesn’t wish to wake up at nights to change his son’s diapers as he seeks uninterrupted slumber.
Taking to Reddit, the fellow revealed that his wife had had their first baby just 5 weeks earlier and was breastfeeding the infant. He explained that she’s up 3-4 times every night, feeding him for up to 40 minutes for each feeding, which left her exhausted. However he was hoping she’d change the diapers as she was already up.
He said, “My partner thinks that I should do all the night time diaper changes since she’s breastfeeding. Her argument is that since she’s nursing day and night, it’s only fair. She says she needs time to go to the bathroom, drink water, etc, while I am changing the diaper. In her view: I am often grouchy, need to be asked multiple times to get up, and sometimes argue if he even needs to be changed.”
Even though the man is on paternity leave at the moment, he reckons he’ll need a full eight hours sleep when he goes back to work. “She will be on leave for the next 18 months. We go to bed at 9pm, and I get up with our dogs at 6 am and she’s up with the baby an hour or two later,” he added.
AITA for not wanting to change our newborn’s diapers at night? from AmItheAsshole
He then asked Redditors whether he was in the wrong or his wife was at fault in this case.
People online were quick to weigh in. Some asked him to be more supportive of his wife, while others shared stories of how their spouses offered them assistance and support as they breastfed their infants.
Do you think the father has a point or should he offer more support to the breastfeeding mum? Tell us.