Mistakes.
Everybody makes them. Including you.
Is it necessary for you to point out another’s in a way that you know wouldn’t have sat well with you if you were the one making the mistake? Then why do it? Does it make you feel better? Does that make you feel validated somehow? There is a way of letting somebody know that they are mistaken, but this is not it.
Here are a few reasons you should stop pointing fingers because when you point one finger towards another, the rest of your fingers are towards yourself.
1. You take unnecessary responsibility which is not on shoulders.
You assume a responsibility that hasn’t been given to you unnecessarily and you may upset a person whose job might be correcting any errors.
2. It makes you look like that person who thinks he/she would never do such a thing.
It makes you look like that overconfident person who thinks whatever he/she does is the spitting image of perfection.
3. You appear insensitive to the person whose mistake you’re pointing out, harming their self-esteem as well.
You harm somebody’s confidence by blatantly shouting out their mistake. Would it be okay if the same happened with you?
4. When you point out a mistake, you appear like ignoring the rest of the big picture.
When you do so, it seems like you’re concentrating only on the mistake but ignoring the rest of the beautiful picture that is right in front of you.
5. It doesn’t stay about what you said but becomes about the way you said it, which makes your intention to help seem redundant.
Your manner matters more than your words.
6. You come across as a very whiny person to the people around you.
You sound like a person who complains a lot and it certainly is not a desirable social quality.
7. It looks like you don’t acknowledge the hard work others have put into the subject of the matter by concentrating excessively on the mistake.
It seems like the rest of the hard work the person has put in doesn’t matter at all. And sometimes even you are completely oblivious to the solution.
8. Some mistakes can be physically unavoidable and it might seem that you don’t care about their comfort at all.
There are some things that you don’t know about and some things cannot be changed. Pointing out their mistakes just makes people hate you more.
9. It becomes difficult for people to work or just be with you and you might lose a lot of people.
You can end up making everyone really uncomfortable and they might refuse to adjust with you. This way you’ll always be a loner.
10. Your personal life comes under scrutiny because you seem disturbed on a personal level due to the way you point out mistakes.
It might seem like by behaving like this you are masking some deep trauma which acts out whenever you point a finger at somebody.
11. Your ego seems like the most fragile thing on the planet to others.
Do you feel you have ego issues? Do you think it’s a good thing to have them?
12. It gives off an air that you understand everything better than everyone else around you.
Even if you don’t think so, it does.
13. Pointing out other people’s mistakes is the worst way of validating yourself.
Self-validation doesn’t and shouldn’t come in a form where others might be insulted.
14. You create cause for others to speak ill of you.
You might just give everyone a chance to not like you and talk ill of you. Not a good impression, is it?
