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Indians and their hypocrisy about sex is quite a debatable topic. Basically, in India if you’re a virgin it’s a concern and if you aren’t, that too, is a concern. And, S-E-X as a word is Indian version of Voldemort, you can do it (behind closed doors) but you can’t say it out loud. Weird, right?
This Indian girl, on a Quora thread, asked if it is bad for a female to be a 25-year-old virgin in India and the answers she got are very sensible. In her edit, she even mentioned that her friends pester her to at least explore the sexual world.
1. The most sensible answer
No, there is nothing wrong. If you haven’t experienced , it’s neither a crime nor a mistake. Any experience , sexual or otherwise , is only good when it’s chosen to be done with will. If you haven’t got any moment or opportunity to experience anything sexual, it’s just fine. You don’t need to feel awkward or think anything on the lines that’s unnatural or weird. Yes, you should read about this subject, talk to your nears and dears about it to understand cos being a totally naive person may not be that good. Do remember, having a theoretical knowledge is always helpful even when one doesn’t have a practical exposure. So no, you are absolutely fine and I hope whenever you get to have the experience , it’s going to be good one and memorable one. And ensure that it’s going to safe.
2. This perfect answer
Your body, your brain, your emotions. Do it when you feel like it. As people wrote it above, read about it. Get yourself familiarise about it. Doing it should be your choice and not anybody else.
3. Because virginity is not reflective of one’s character
Absolutely not , I mean why there is a fuss around being virgin a issue , I mean if some is virgin then people have issue if someone is not then also it’s a problem , we need to ignore these stuff which doesn’t have any importance in life , but people make it a fuss and start judging a person character , look at the western world how give importance to a person character not judging by their virginity , but we do the opppsite to that , which is so creepy . I strongly oppose the views of ours looking at this virginity aspect.
4. The choice is yours!
No, it is not bad. There are many girls around you who might be virgin. If you feel yourself that you should explore sex then you are free to explore it. You are not making any mistake or crime. It is your life and you can better think what you want to do and what not. If you want to explore sex find a partner. If you are not ready for a relationship you can look for casual hook up or hire an escort. If you want to start a relationship then find a guy whom you like. Or wait for the right moment i.e. your marriage.
5. Be yourself, always!
No, first of all make sure you are not in any confusion state or like a cat on the wall. Being a virgin or not to be a virgin before marriage is based on the perception of a person and their state of mind.Being a virgin is okay at your age. It is up to you to decide to do or not to do. You continue to be yourself and decide. It is your life. No one can compel you to do it. If you decision is yes for it. Then make sure you are safe & choosy on the right hand. Do not get into trap and spoil your life. Even your friends will do harm to you in this matter. Because there are so many cowards out there waiting for the right prey. Good luck for you life. Live safe till you lead your life….
6. When someone pointed out that life’s too short
You must go ahead and do that. Life is too volatile and unpredictable to count on anything for such a longer period of time. You never know how your sexual life is going to be like. Things don’t fall into places and you end up rationalizing the things you have got. I am not saying you would be unhappy but you stand a better chance to be less unhappy if things go wrong. And it’s not just about sex but exploring about the opposite gender. When you indulge in sexual activities, you get to know many dimensions of the person which are rarely seen if he is your brother, friend, dad, uncle or neighbor etc..Facing marriage with zero introduction to an opposite gender has large potential to present you with many unexpected and unpleasant experiences.
7. From her logical point of view
This is totally upto you. Ask yourself the following questions. Do I want to have sex? Do I feel horny? Do I want to live my sexual fantasies? If yes, go for it. If no, then don’t. While I’d ask you to try it once, at least foreplay, it’s totally upto you. Do what your heart tells you. Don’t fall to your peer pressure. Have sex only when you feel like. Cheers!
8. It’s normal to be a virgin and normal even if you aren’t
No,it is normal. I don’t know why it is worrying you. If you really want to explore yourself,you can surely give it a try. Make sure it is safe and fun..
It’s high time people stopped playing with the V-card and judging people based on that.
H/T: The Huffington Post
Few answers have been slightly edited for brevity and clarity
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