Let’s accept it. Many desi parents tend to be pushy about certain matters. Class mein top karna, shaadi, and acchi naukri are some things that we, as kids, are constantly pressurized about.
However, amongst the lot, there are also many parents who have learnt to let their kids go, have their own aspirations and dreams, and have let them live their lives on their own terms.
I say this because many people online are sharing heartwarming stories of how their parents have been an incredible support to them. It’s a privilege to have supportive parents, they said. It started when one Twitter user highlighted that having parents who don’t pressurize you to get married is a blessing.
Having parents who don’t pressurize you to get married and are okay with you taking your time is such a privilege. Have to give credit to my parents for a lot of things, but this tops I think
— Akhila (@akeliakhila) February 21, 2021
Reacting to this, many came forward with stories of how their parents didn’t pressurize them for marriage, jobs, kids, education, asked them to take their time, and some even stood up to relatives when they tried to create pressure! Have a look:
Also, not pressing to have kids. To be ok if you choose to never marry, never have kids. Not go for usual career paths. My parents are all this and more❤️
— Ginny (@Velvetyvirgo) February 21, 2021
Same here, esp my mom🙏 She kinda takes it a bit too far for Indian standards and asks me what’s the point of getting married. I’m really grateful though. 😄
— Sujani Sanjeevi (@sujani_sanjeevi) February 21, 2021
Most parent in Bengal are like that. That’s why it was a culture shock when I came out of Bengal for work and explored other places in India.
— Tamalika Bhowmick (@TamalikaBhowmi2) February 21, 2021
And having parents who ain’t pressuring/ blackmailing you because your younger siblings are getting married. My mum dad❤
Can’t tell you how this is still hugely abnormal.
— Quarantined Neha (@Incognito_Neha) February 21, 2021
My parents never forced me to have a baby even after 4 years of marriage and supporting my study after the marriage too both mentally and financially. Can’t thank enough.. ❤
— Swagatika (@S_swagatika_) February 22, 2021
This being prevelant for women, applies to men too. However, in the later case, it's precluded by the pressure of having a stable income & job.
I feel I am privileged too because my parents have allowed me to continue with my education rather than pressurizing me to get a job. https://t.co/V4qKqrDKWo
— राघव (@RP_Theorist) February 22, 2021
a 100%. knowing they’ve got my back makes me feel so much calmer when relatives inevitably begin pestering me https://t.co/QO4g7f21es
— rheannon (@RheaSugwekar) February 22, 2021
My parents tell me to live my life and not get married before I am 35💞 https://t.co/sn33MVJs93
— P✨ (@prakrititty) February 21, 2021
Having parents who don't pressurize you to do a particular job and are okay with you taking your time is such a privilege. https://t.co/HzFzJjKJVz
— उकडीचे मोदक Fan (@BeLikeManali) February 21, 2021
"Take your time. Boys will come and go. Focus on career." Is legit what my father-in-law said to my wife when she told them her intensions to marry me. https://t.co/9jDy424Qtv
— Too Many Oscars and Too Much Democracy (@oscarvarghese) February 21, 2021
They often times become the first shield, that bears pressure from relatives. But none the less, that "it's J's happiness that matters most" at the end of all such discussions is…
I can't tell you how it makes me feel. https://t.co/DKIks8DWQu
— Jayasree B (@frostatmidnite) February 21, 2021
There are so many people from our generation who have had issues, often serious, because of bad parenting. We hope these tweets help new and future parents to do parenting right and be more supportive of their kids!