8 ‘Sister Codes’ Every Girl Should Follow For An Ever-Lasting Friendship

Barney Stinson made it easy for the guys. He made the bro codes, and now every guy can adhere to them. But why didn’t Lily or Robin come up with something similar (like sister codes) to help the chicas out there?

Since they didn’t, I did!

After having loved and lost many friends while growing up to become a legend (give it time), I learned some valuable lessons that I really hope I had learned sooner. Some I learned easily, by getting kicked on my ass for behaving like an ass.

However, some I learned the hard way, by getting my heart broken from a friend I trusted with my life.

So to ensure that no other girl has to go through the same thing, here are some ‘sister codes’ that crack the recipe of an ever-lasting friendship.

1. Bros before Hoes Sister before Mister.

It can be a date with a hot guy or a flirting session with the guy you had been eyeing for long, if your girlfriend needs you, you got to be there for her. Even if you are getting lucky and she calls you to tell you that she is getting fired (or dumped), you got to put her first. Guys come and go, friends stay for life.

 

2. Her ex = LOC (Don’t cross the boundary)

If you meet her ex after many years and you eventually fall in love, that’s cool. Tell her about it before saying ‘I do’ to the guy and she will understand. She will be happy for you and bless you with her advice. But if you are about to make a drunken (or sober) mistake of falling prey to lust, please don’t. The idea of both of you together (naked) will scar her for the rest of her life.

 

3. Don’t let her back hurt your knife.

Or in other words, don’t backstab her. If you truly consider her a good friend, never do anything that might sabotage something she cares for. It can be her career, her love life, her terms with her family or other friends, or even an old top she can’t let go off. If it is important to her, never do anything that jeopardizes it.

 

4. Suspect Respect.

Respect her privacy. She is comfortable enough to share everything with you, but that doesn’t make you the admin of her life. Even if you think she is making a mistake, advice her, don’t try to take control of her life. Respect her decisions and be on her side if she falls. It’s her life, let her live all parts of it. (Also if you know she is going to get some action, give her some space, don’t make it awkward by being the third wheel)

 

5. Dear Diary, Shut up.

She shared her deepest darkest secrets with you, and you have to be the master lock that can’t be opened using any key but one when it comes to that. If she has put so much trust in you to make you a partner in the most confidential information about her life, live up to it and never jabber about it.

 

6. Be her life jacket.

Be it a failed exam, a drug addiction, a pregnancy, an abusive relationship or just a bad breath, don’t judge and let go of her. Even if the world talks bad about her, empathize with her. Help her through the dark times, be the light at the end of the tunnel for her. There are high chances that the world is judging her for failing in life, don’t join the crowd, instead help her out.

 

7. Don’t be a b*tch and call her one. (It’s different with me because I don’t know you 😛 )

Never ever ever ever (x infinity) insult her. Calling names while making merry is okay, but if you show her down in front of other friends or family, that is something that can’t be forgotten easily. It’s not just name calling you see, she might not be an expert in technology (hypothetically) but she might have a better fashion sense than you (once again, please don’t take this literally!). Don’t show her down for not knowing something (especially in front of others).

 

8. Distance doesn’t mean distant.

School ends. College finishes. Jobs change. However, it doesn’t necessarily mean that it is the end of your friendship. It might be difficult to keep in touch, the frequency of calls might decrease to just a call on each other’s birthdays. But make time to keep in touch. Skype, Snapchat, or a yearly trip to Goa maybe? Make sure there is a way for you to be a part of her life. Don’t be lazy, expect less and love more.

You borrowed her sweater and burned it, that’s okay, that can be recovered from. But you met the guy you know she has a crush on and swept him away, well that’s tricky. If she is so important to you that you don’t want to hurt her, remember these ‘Sister Codes’ and love her till infinity.

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