In India, society expects that individuals should achieve a sense of “settledness” by the age of 30, with any uncertainty beyond that threshold raising eyebrows. By 40, it’s almost deemed a foregone conclusion. These expectations include marriage, parenthood, homeownership, and financial stability, including assets and savings. However, such benchmarks fail to acknowledge the diverse trajectories of life. For many, these milestones aren’t attained by 30, if ever. To expect one to conform to this rigid timeline confines them inside boxes.
However, this idea of being settled by the age of 30 can be anxiety-inducing for many individuals. Hence, a user on Reddit who is in their late 20s took to r/bangalore subreddit to ask people online if they were indeed settled in life.
To everyone in their late 30s and 40s – are you “settled” in life?
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Several people online in their 30s and even 40s took to the comments section to share how they were nowhere near settled in life. While some weren’t financially settled, others weren’t married. While some were still figuring out what job would suit them best, others were trying to bounce back from a divorce. The struggle is neverending.
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To expect everyone to be settled by 30 would be disregarding the fact that each one of us has a very different life and experiences. We all have different wants, needs and aims. Hence, there can never be a one-size-fits-all solution. Don’t you think?