12 Handy Tips For Boyfriends Who Are Going To Meet Their Girlfriend’s Dad For The First Time

“If I behave properly and impress him, he will like me!”

No, he won’t. That man is the father of the girl you are getting handsy with. He will always look at you with apprehension, and it is completely understandable.

What would you do if you had a daughter and was dating a guy like you? You will probably panic a little too. Daughters are the apple of their father’s eyes, and you just took that apple and are doing god-knows-what with it. Of course, he is not going to be completely cool with it.

But you can be on neutral grounds with him if you play your cards right. And in time, maybe he will actually accept you as a part of the family.

But before that – some pointers for when you go to meet him for the first time.

Point #0. Be yourself No, this article is not about ‘being yourself’ BS

Wait a sec, everyone in this world will suggest you to be yourself. That’s vague. I can be myself in my pajamas, picking my nose, eating Maggi, farting like a cow, swearing at my roomie while watching mysterious documentaries on aliens. But your prospective father-in-law need not necessarily see that side of you. Not at least in the first meeting.

 

1. Iron your clothes, brush your teeth, comb your hair and cut your nails

You don’t have to dress up in a tuxedo and overdo it, but go to meet the man as a man, and not a punk kid who is still trying to get a handle on life. Look presentable, but don’t overdo it.

 

2. Do hand grip exercises a week before you meet her dad

For a firm handshake, cause it is the first indicator of the confident man you are.

 

3. Get your smile right

Yes, your smile looks creepy sometimes. It will trigger every alarm in his head. Please smile naturally, and not like a perv. (Sorry, I can’t help you if your natural smile makes you look like a perv) 😀

 

4. Do NOT touch her during the time you are in that house

An absolute no-no. You may be in love with her, but he is the alpha male in that house. It is his property. Lay a finger on your girlfriend and if he sees you, you start the season bottom of the table.

 

5. No, you do not smoke, drink or get erections

You may be a passionate lover who loves making love to her. You may like drinking too, but there are things you omit during the first meeting. It is about slow inception that you are a good man – despite your smoking and drinking. Let them get to know you first.

 

6. Woo the siblings and the mother

Moms are the same everywhere. They are moms. Get the moms. Treat her mom as your own mom and you have half won the game already. Then comes the siblings. If you are cool with the rest of the family, the father has to like you because of all the positive vibes in that house.

 

7. Sit at one place and do not move around a lot

Do not fidget. Do not roam around. Sit in a place like a good boy. Remember, it is your first visit to that house. You cannot behave like a son-in-law just yet. Baby steps.

 

8. Update your Linkedin profile

Her father will probably stalk you. And Linkedin is to adults what Facebook is to us. Write the profile better.

 

9. Do NOT talk about politics, religion and your views on marriage

We know you are progressive and have liberal views. There is a good chance that your girlfriend’s dad is also liberal, but there is a good chance that he is conservative too. Keep your personal views to yourself unless asked about them.

 

10. No dillydallying on the phone

The older generation absolutely hates how the smartphone generation behaves. Give your smartphone a break. Keep it on silent and talk to them, giving them your full attention.

 

11. Laugh at his jokes

It’s just another way into his good books.

 

12. Get the hell outta there ASAP

It is a dinner with them, not an overnight stay over. Get in, talk, eat, get out. That’s enough for the first time. Be a good guest.

There you go. I hope her dad gets to like you, eventually.

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