In many parts of Indian society, the absence of opportunities for boys and girls to mix and hang out together from an early age creates a significant barrier in communication between the genders. From a young age, social norms often enforce visible segregation, hence, there isn’t much natural interaction or the option to develop a friendship. Consequently, many Indian boys struggle with communication skills essential for building relationships with girls.
For example, a male student from IIT Kanpur took to Reddit to share how he has zero female interaction, which has allegedly begun to affect his mental health. He hasn’t had the opportunity to make female friends ever since he started studying at IIT.
“I wanted to reach out and share something that’s been weighing heavily on my mind lately. I’m currently a student here at IITK, and I find myself in a situation where I have zero female interaction. This might sound trivial to some, but it’s been making me feel quite down lately. I’ve realized that I haven’t had the opportunity to make a single female friend since I’ve been here, and it’s starting to affect my mental health.”
He feels that he is missing out on a significant aspect of social interaction and if this continues, he will never have the chance to form genuine connections with women.
“I know that friendships shouldn’t be gender-dependent, but the absence of any female friends in my life makes me feel like I’m missing out on a significant aspect of social interaction. I worry that this trend will continue, and I’ll never have the chance to form genuine connections with women until an arranged marriage comes along. I want to break out of this pattern and develop meaningful friendships, but I’m not sure where to start.”
Have a look at the post here.
Several people online took to the comments section to give him genuine advice. Many people were of the opinion that his inability to approach women might stem from a self-esteem issue. So he was asked to work on his personality first. He was also asked to not consider women as this other brand of species. Women are normal human beings, just like men. So it is best to approach them naturally, without having to ‘make a move’.
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Some suggested that he should join certain clubs or take part in extra-curricular activities in college to be able to make new friends.
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There were many who’ve had similar problems in the past and shared how they got over it.
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What do you think the guy should do?