Even today, there are numerous women across the country who face physical and verbal abuse from their in-laws. While some fight back, others are forced to keep quiet.
However, one woman recently took to Twitter to narrate how her mother took a stand for herself after 25 years of suffering verbal abuse from her mother-in-law.
She reveals that her grandmother abused her mother because she didn’t have a ghunghat and was sitting “at the same level” as her.
I am in awe of what my mum did today!! She sat at the dining table and dadi started abusing because she didn't have a ghunghat and was sitting at the same level as Dadi (it is v common to abuse people for this apparently) anyway mum didn't say anything then, but…
— couchpotet (@couchpotet) August 22, 2021
However, later when her relatives came to celebrate rakhi and asked her mother to sit in the same room as everyone else, including the grandmother, she refused.
“I’m not coming if all I have to do is keep the ghunghat and listen to me and my family being abused,” she said.
When bhuas came for Rakhi and called mom to sit in the same room as everybody and dadi was also there and my mom just said “no, I’m not coming if all I have to do is keep ghunghat and listen to me and my fam being abused” and everybody had to leave dadi and go to a different room
— couchpotet (@couchpotet) August 22, 2021
I know it’s not huge, but after almost 25 years of constantly being abused for the most random thing by my dadi and everybody, my mom finally stood up for herself!!! And I’m so proud of her for this!!!
— couchpotet (@couchpotet) August 22, 2021
My dad got mad instantly almost like a reflex but wtf will he do in front of people? Force his wife to listen to his mom’s abuses?? Tf not. Happy that my dad has learned basic manners but also proud that my mom found strength. 25 years too late, but so much better than never
— couchpotet (@couchpotet) August 22, 2021
People online lauded her mother’s courage and said it is never too late to take a stand for yourself. Others shared similar experiences of their mothers.
More power to her…no woman should have to face this. My inlaws would say things behind my back but all the same.
— Sakshi Narula🐉 (@mssakshinarula) August 23, 2021
Ooh, this has to be the best thing I have read in a long time
She helped herself and you, that’s why it’s so important, to see that this is how to stand for yourself
She deserves extra hug from me, an unknown random twitter admirer— Shobna S. Iyer (@shobnasi) August 23, 2021
Kudos to your mom. Breaking with traditional orthodox behaviours is never easy.Early in my mom’s marriage she the eldest DIL resisted the ghunghat& dadi launched WW3. But dadaji supported her and that set a ‘no ghunghat’ precedent for the younger DILs in the extended family!
— dipti kotian (@diptiko) August 24, 2021
This is so powerful, and sth I have seen my mom struggle w/ too. She has been so nice to such vicious and vile people in the family. But, she’s finally starting to find her voice and speak up. LETS GO. Stop abuse of womxn in the family.
— Period. (@that_tech_tea) August 23, 2021
I am so proud of your Mom. Standing up for yourself is not easy. It takes even more courage if spousal support is absent.
— Chatterbot (@nandiniriyer) August 24, 2021
It’s never too late to stand for oneself, one‘s self-esteem as life is too to just tolerate nonsense & abuses, no matter if it comes from the family that’s supposedly your own & whom you love the most.
— Speakmyheart (@story_views) August 23, 2021
Sometimes, all it takes is one act of courage!