Why Our Generation Doesn’t Want To Settle Down Now And It’s Perfectly Valid

Love is forever they say, but we get scared at the mere thought of spending the rest of our lives with one person.

Not because we’re scared of commitment, we’re scared of the people we will become, the people our partners will turn into. A version of themselves so unhappy and tied down, that our marriages will end just one way or another. Divorce or death.

We haven’t grown up watching black and white movies that paint a pretty picture of a romance blooming between two lovers, we’ve grown up watching Gossip Girl, Dexter and Awkward. We’re the generation that Snapchats hearts rather than penning down love letters, because we can’t be bothered to find the post office. We’re the people who love the one they are with. We don’t think there’s just one person who’s meant for you. We feel like as we grow up and mature, we meet people with the same level of intellect and view of life and connect with them.

 

We don’t frown upon premarital sex because we don’t sign a marriage license at 23, like our parents.

But none of that means we don’t know true love. We live true love, we wish for it and we do everything to hang on to it. But our way of hanging on to it is not settling down. Our way of love is humongous, we want to travel together, we want to read the same books and be inspired, we want to make our own path in the world without a surname that doesn’t belong to us. We want to be able to go on business trips to Turkey and Fashion shows in Milan without having to think of the maid, milkman or bills.

 

We’re not ready for responsibility that encompasses anyone but us, because we need love too and we’re the best people to love ourselves.

We have a million dreams that might not bloom within the boundaries of marriage yet. We earn enough to support our crazy adventure but we don’t earn enough to support a family. We don’t dream of how many kids we’d have, we dream of the company we’d build, we dream of changing society, we dream of freedom from moral policing.

We might be married when we’re ready for it, but it’s also true that most of us might never tie the legal knot and the world needs to accept that.

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