Dear women, we speak at last. Yes, we have met earlier. We have shared silence in the corner, whispers by the bed and we have shared afterthoughts; but it’s time we speak and speak out! Fear not, for I am you, one of you to be precise and I come bearing little pieces of me that will hopefully help you be!
I come with sincerely jotted notes on how to unclench yourself from situations you wish never existed, from men you never want to meet…from the daily grind of glares that reeks of sexism and objectification.
No, I’m no philosopher to give you advices and counsels about how you should deal with the monsters that do not see day or night but I, at the risk of sounding old, have a bagful of MUSTs that will help you curb the lapse of unwanted attention in your life.
Here are a few tricks (no rocket science) that will help you reach there.Â
1. Say NO when the boss makes advances, you do not like!
A clear and resounding ‘NO’ will save you a lot of trouble and hassle. There will be times when the fear of losing your job will make you feel giddy but believe me nothing is worth sacrificing your self-esteem for!
2. Put your foot DOWN when the over-affectionate uncle asks you ‘massage his legs’.
No, do not think what the relatives would say, just go with your gut and out that filthy person in front of the family.
3. CONFRONT the ‘friend’ who doesn’t realise the difference between asking out and creeping out!
Yes, you’re not alone. I know so many who masquerade stalking and creeping as casual flirtation, courtesy: Bollywood movies. It’s time you tell them it’s not cool, ladies!
4. BLOCK the colleague at work who thinks he is entitled to pass comments just because he is a guy!
‘You’re are looking too sexy for office.’ That’s the one ladies, that’s your culprit. Do not mistake me for a male-basher, I can very well digest compliments but I will not take tolerate if you label me just because I wore a red lipstick to work!
5. Go Ninja on doodhwalas/Â autowalas/ security guards who cannot stop ogling at the girls!
It’s time to bring the karate/boxing champ from school to the front, fellas. No compromising when it comes to self-defense.
6. SHAME and REPORT The d*cks who flood your inbox with d*ck pics!
And that is just the beginning; I say report the rat out to the cops, believe me, the few gentleman left (jinka naam faltu main kharab hota hai) will keep you in their prayers!
7. STARE back harder at the damned co-passenger who just won’t quit!
When I say hard, give death glares, if needed. But don’t let him go without making him uncomfortable for once!
Last but not the least, raise your VOICE against perpetrators every time you see, not just for yourself but countless others who are in the same shoes as you are! Please?
Shall we?!