Woman Turns Offensive Dating App Messages Into Works Of Eye-Popping Art

If you ever want to know about the shady side of social media and online dating, just ask a woman to open her ‘Other’ message folder.

From unsolicited, indecent proposals to threats, you will know that it’s a rather annoying world out there for women.

Sarey Ruden got tired of abusive and downright offensive messages from strangers, so she turned them into eye-popping artwork!

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“About two years ago I received a particularly hurtful message from a guy on a dating app I had been on one date with. On a whim, I felt compelled to turn his ugly words into something more. At first my pieces were mainly typographic designs, black and white, more focused on the messages I had received. The design process was cathartic to me, it helped me to see the bigger picture. These terrible messages weren’t a reflection of me, but rather, of the toxic masculinity poisoning our culture”, she said in an interview.

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With Sarey Tales: The Art of Online Dating, artist Sarey Ruden has taken real-life dating horror stories and has turned them into art.

But what began as a fun little project soon turned into something much larger.

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“Sareytales has evolved into a platform that empowers other women to stand up to the online bullying, anti-Semitism, and cyber-sexual harassment culture of online dating,” she explains.

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“Legend 3 / Silent Consent” 🤴🏻👄👸🏻🌺(digital illustration) Greyskies248 believes that a lack of response to his incessant messages on #plentyoffish indicates mutual interest, because, silence is still an answer 🤬 Although this “only” happened on a dating app, my concern is that he more likely than not believes silence is how women express their consent in real life. Let me repeat: SILENCE IS NOT CONSENT #sleepingbeauty #theartofonlinedating #feministart #sareytales . . . My “Legends” series explores the many beliefs rooted in the patriarchal system of sexual dominance, normalizing sexual violence, social privilege and dehumanizing rhetoric which form the myths and urban legends that eventually evolve into fact for many men (and women)😩 . . . ➡️prints available @sareytales_shop and Etsy.com/shop/sareytales 🚨Use code HOLIDAY2018 at checkout to receive 50% on your purchase of 2 or more items🚨 . . . . #silentconsent #legendsseries #popart #digitalillustration #legendary #rapeculture #disney #princecharming #graphicdesign #urbanlegend #digitalillustration #contemporaryart #onlindating #detroit #detroitartist #artgallery #feminism #slaythepatriarchy

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De Trop Series 1 // So Dramatic ✨🎈💎 (Metallic Mylar Balloons + Rhinestones on Acrylic + Digital illustration). De Trop is a French word meaning “too much, superfluous or excessive”. As it relates to online dating, when a person is called “dramatic” it generally is because the aggressor didn’t get the response they were hoping for (usually in response to a sexual query). Calling someone dramatic is a way to manipulate the conversation, attempting to make the other person question their reactions to something that violated their boundaries. My De Trop series will explore these phrases and tactics through the use of over-the-top balloon art ➡️Swipe for the convo 🎨Prints available at my Etsy shop, link in bio🖤 #sareytales #detrop #theartofonlinedating . . . #sodramatic #onlinedating #gaslighting #popart #modernart #contemporaryart #bling #artgallery #authorsofinstagram #slaythepatriarchy #feminism #feministart #conceptart #detroit #artsy #etsy

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#tbt to one of my faves “Tear That Butt Up”, which made its debut at last year’s @dirtyshowdetroit and sold to my first patron! Meanwhile, a few months ago, the same guy who messaged me the original text on #plentyoffish sent an almost identical message AGAIN. When I told him he had used nearly the exact line on me already (I couldn’t resist!), he denied it using every tactic in the book: denial, gaslighting, blame shifting, even claiming to be hacked after I shared screen shots of his original message. Swipe to see the convo 🤢 . . Thank you to all my new, and not so new followers, it is a privilege to be heard by you. Thank you for listening 🖤📣 And a special shoutout to @houseoftheodora for sharing my story, your mission of elevating womxn-created erotic art is timely and necessary! #sareytales #theartofonlinedating #feministart #tearthatbuttup #dirtyshow #eroticart #detroit

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Will this ugly side of dating apps ever change?