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If you’re a fitness freak, it is safe to assume you’re stalking Bani J, VJ-turned-model and her Instagram for some motivation, as we speak. While you and I are still wrapping our heads around in awe at the fact that the once lanky Roadies aspirant went on to become a muscle machine, Bani has had her share of body shaming. And nothing about it was fair.
But nothing shook her. From being criticised with disapproving contempt for her physique to being branded as ‘manly’, Bani put up a strong face. Until the time she decided to shut body shamers up with a powerful and empowering post. But unfortunately, as they say, haters gonna hate.
Recently, Bani addressed a big gathering at an event and debunked every myth that surrounds her and her much-debated appearance.Â
“I can understand the kind of pressure when you wake up a day and you find yourself fat one day because you are working on a project which is in the limelight. No matter where you are, people are taking pictures of you and they don’t even think before making comments but the kind of damage it can do, you can’t imagine that state. It hurts, it really does. I want to make you understand that being such a way is not cool. I have to say that we women always fall victim to it. We do this (body shaming) to each other, it’s disgusting.
The thing is, we have been conditioned that way that ‘yeh tumhari competition hai, you are threatened by this woman or she will take away your husband from you’ whatever it is, it’s stupid and we need to grow over it. Why can’t I look at you and say that you are beautiful and mean it, rather than thinking ‘yaar yeh sundar toh lag rahi hai but isne kuch toh karaya hoga.’ Can we get over this?”
She said so at the India Today Women Summit.
She also opened up about being branded as ‘manly’ and the apparent association of ‘muscle’ with a man!
“I was being called manly for having muscles. Muscles are only for those who have testicles and if you don’t then you shouldn’t have them.
I was like,’okay I have balls too, does that make it okay?”
In fact, Bollywood actress Richa Chadha who was also a part of the panel exclaimed everything a woman needs to hear right now.Â
“I am a successful woman but I am a person. I have feelings and I can crack, and that’s okay but having said that if women spent half her time in discussing the problems they face in respect to money they make, properties they should own, basic rights in marriage, sexual abuse or abuse in general, it would have been very different world.”
I wonder, if we really did that, how different would our lives be? If we really stopped worrying about how the society would think of us? If we lived, the way we want to? I wonder…
News Source: Indian Express
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