We live in a society which subscribes to a very conservative mentality when it comes to marriage. Traditionally speaking, families look for grooms who are better than the bride in every sense – they should come from better families, should be more qualified, should earn more, etc. Not many families are okay with the idea of a woman getting married to a man who is “lesser” than her in every aspect.
A guy named Samarth Srivastava took to X to ask women what is stopping them from marrying a guy who earns less, is less smart, less intelligent and less good-looking. Have a look:
Dear Women,
What is stopping you from marrying a guy who earns less than you, is less smart than you, is less intelligent than you and doesn’t look better than you?
— Samarth Srivastava (@SamarthSri_) December 11, 2023
Different women had different kinds of responses. There were some who said that they didn’t mind earning more or being smarter than the guy. What they mind is being “better” at everything but still having to take care of the man or validate his male ego.
Everything. I am not a man, it is not my role to protect and provide. If he has all those qualities then he can give birth. We don’t mind earning or being more smart. If he can’t even give birth why should women babysit a man-child? It is not our job. We will go to a man who…
— Jena (@mehtaversed) December 11, 2023
In many cases, the woman has been socialized into believing that she needs to get married to someone who is better than her.
Entire society stops her actually and the process started since her very childhood
— Naina (@itss_naina) December 11, 2023
Also, if the guy is less smart and intelligent, their personality won’t match up to the woman and she will end up losing interest.
Because then there is nothing about him which might interest them. PS : Not financially/careerwise but in terms of personality/intellect
— Akanksha (@Akanksha_2890) December 11, 2023
What if the woman loses her job during pregnancy? Who will provide for her then?
It’s a women trait that looks for safety, protection & provider from her man. Women have many constraints like if doctor ask her to quit job during pregnancy then her man shld be the provider in life. Women thinks far ahead.
— Messilious (@aham_yogini) December 12, 2023
it’s the men with their oh so fragile egos who are not ready to marry a woman above their level, if he does marry then he will try his whole life to bring her down in every possible way… I saw this happen irl so don’t say I am just saying https://t.co/lobjMMNJc6
— Shalini🌊📚🐰you’re cute (@BooksnBibsnBTS) December 12, 2023
More than being husband and wife, a couple should focus more on being partners.
Earning more or less is just a phase of life if you are meant to grow & stick together.
There would always be days when either of the partners is doing great at the job, getting good promotions.
There would even be days when one is jobless & the other is earning well. https://t.co/R6cXH17JvA— Aarohy Kapoor (@aarohy_kapoor) December 12, 2023
Cuz that fellow will still expect her to manage household conventionally and expect prince treatment 😂 https://t.co/d4IDJO08ik
— ಲತೆ🥀 (@consrvtvlibrl) December 12, 2023
Women are anyway at the bottom of the pyramid, generally speaking, when it comes to career and financial prospects. And in today’s world, a couple won’t be able to survive in a single-income household.
brother in christ I’m already in the lower bracket I don’t think we could survive if we both were stupid & broke https://t.co/2q1KZPk3xI
— 🐼 (@MayG1806) December 12, 2023
For some, compatibility, mutual understanding and trust is enough.
I wouldn’t mind marrying such a guy if there was compatibility, mutual understanding and trust between us
— Ariana (@Ariana19z) December 12, 2023
What are your views on this?