In many traditional families, there is this ingrained gender bias which leads to the pampering of the male members to the extent that they barely know how to perform any household chore and are heavily dependent upon the female members of the family. This gender imbalance causes men to be shielded from household responsibilities whereas the women, on the other hand, are expected to do everything all at once and with ease.
We have spoken at length about how men also need to perform household chores and become caregivers to the family. They should stop expecting the women of the household to do simple tasks for them like making their bed, ironing their clothes, and serving them food even when the dishes are right in front of them.
Funnily, a woman took to X (formerly Twitter) to narrate a story about her father. She claimed that once her dad came back home past 10:30 PM and her mother had slept because she was tired. She had cooked dinner for him and all he had to do was serve himself a plate. He didn’t do it. Her dad went to sleep with an empty stomach even when the food was right in front of him.
I remember once my dad came home past 10:30 PM and my mom had slept cause she was tired. She had cooked dinner for him and kept it. He didn’t eat it because he has to be served the food. Food is right there but he would rather sleep with an empty stomach than go to the kitchen. https://t.co/u3x8xyxXuX
— veronica (@ughsiepughsie) November 29, 2023
And the kind of meltdown the men on social media started to have was comical. Most of these men probably do the same in their own homes and became incredibly defensive about a man they don’t even know.
Dude came home at 10:30PM from work and shouldn’t expect the food to be served? If he came drunk that’s another thing.
— Nupura Ranjan Mishra (@NupuraRMishra) November 30, 2023
Men have eaten first and the best because they went to war.
Who plowed the fields, planted the seeds, tended to the livestock?
Who potentially got kicked in the face by a steer or bull. Who helped birth the animal offspring?
Who built the home, the things inside?…
— Pontifex Caesar (@bhurusmaximus) November 30, 2023
Your (even her) experience is specific. Not every household is same. My dad is dependent on mom, but my father in law is not. I am not dependent on her for all things but food. If not available, I can make my way. 😀
So let’s keep out experience to ourselves, rather generalising…
— Jaggi Data-AI Security📈🐱💻🐱👤🚀 (@jaggibhau) November 30, 2023
burnol moment for feminists pic.twitter.com/W5G2814lTP
— Nayab Samar (@nbsamar) November 30, 2023
Like father like daughter. Thanks less. Don’t blame us.
— Wokeflix (@wokeflix_) November 30, 2023
Maybe he was just too tired to eat? But then again what do leftists know about work?
— Asian Cityzen (@AsianCityzen) December 1, 2023
U don’t even have no respect for ur father. That’s his wife and they know each other for decades and that’s non of ur business. Ur mom knows him well. I don’t know why yall won’t mind ur damn business? If it’s abuse then that’s different. He loves his wife serving him and he…
— STUNNER (@Cr7Godbrand) November 30, 2023
There were also others who called this toxic behavior out and shared stories from their own lives which are eerily similar. As it turns out, incidents like these keep happening in every other home.
I genuinely don’t understand why men are crying in the comments.
She literally didn’t generalise. She was talking about HER dad.
— Neri 🦋 (@Neriahs_world) November 30, 2023
As usual, they are coming to defend a man they don’t know 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
— OMOTÉ-URHOBO 👑 (@Madam_Ufuoma) November 30, 2023
Society has treated women like objects instead of human beings for so long. To please men, and others. Every generation of women has carried the trauma for as long as we can remember.
— Ksana (@bigarms4me) November 30, 2023
This all sounds like the macho Hispanic culture I’ve had to deal with all my life. Avoid them at all costs lol they want maids not partners . They want your world to revolve around them 😐
— cat (@lemontreetea) November 30, 2023
Most Middle/Upper class Indian men are the most pampered, spoilt and absolutely useless beings on this planet. No other culture bring up their men like we do.
They can’t cook, clean or care for another human being. Also, the most horrible thing is the unwillingness to change or…
— Rony Dutta (@RonyDutta) November 30, 2023
I remember one incident where my taaya threw the whole plate of food just because his son bought food for him instead of his daughter/wife.
— TryingTooHardToSurvive (@userisdead10) November 29, 2023
I am not fully against women doing house chores etc but it’s time we stop pampering our boys the way we do in desi household. Men should know how to cook, wash clothes, Polish his own shoes, cleaning his own room. There is nothing that hurts his masculinity in this.
— کائنات مغل🇵🇰 (@Kainat_F_mughal) November 29, 2023
The babying and pampering done to guys in desi households are comical levels, and the tantrums the guys throw if they’re not is even more comical.
So glad I was raised to stand on my own two feet and do things on my own.
— Ravi Vyas (@_henny_lava) November 29, 2023
My mom didn’t get to see my grandpa on his last breath because my dad was throwing a fit about how there were no ironed clothes for him and she had to iron them before she went.
— Shiori (@sannyinkst) November 30, 2023
Serving yourself some food is a basic life skill and one shouldn’t have to be dependent on another person for this.