The arranged marriage market in India is a scary place to be, for both men and women. While men are judged based on their income, hairline and height, women are judged based entirely on how they look. Imagine getting rejected for the most bizarre reasons and the kind of toll it takes on one’s self-confidence!
I say this because a list of bachelors suitable for marriage is making rounds on social media. The list was allegedly made by a 29-year-old woman who is a BCom graduate but isn’t working as of now. She is apparently speaking to 14 men at the same time via matrimonial sites and asked people online for their help in choosing one guy as her husband.
The list contains the following details of the guys – their age, the company they are working for, their annual salary and their location. Beside the details of two of the guys are the words “bald” and “but he is 5.5” in parentheses.
Here’s the list shared as a tweet by a user on Twitter:
Most of the girls on twitter are single because some girls are talking to 14 guys at once pic.twitter.com/1fRaGzVxwm
— Squint Neon (@TheSquind) July 17, 2023
While some people online couldn’t believe what they were reading and felt sorry for all the men the woman is allegedly talking to, others who have had experience claimed that the arranged marriage market is even more brutal than it seems. Here’s what some of them said:
I feel bad for the guy at BCG. 😅
He’s probably going to end up being picked in this weird Swayamvar
And will have to spend his life with her
— Bharat Kumar Ramesh (@rbkayz) July 17, 2023
even seema aunty would give up bro
— Naina (@Naina_2728) July 17, 2023
These guys have way more options than this unemployed girl but she thinks she gets to pick lol😂
— Rahul (@rahul__ra) July 17, 2023
Arranged marriage like this is literally a buyer-seller experience. It makes absolutely no sense for Men to go in without a prenup in place.
— rahul agarwal (@rahul67) July 17, 2023
Love how OP has written bald and 5.5' in brackets.
Arranged marriages are the most humiliating process anyone would go through, irrespective of their gender. https://t.co/iyIFHHSteb
— Dharmesh Ba (@dharmeshba) July 17, 2023
People spend their 20s making a career to end up on someone's grocery list https://t.co/ydl7n7orng
— Anurag Bhagsain (@abhagsain) July 17, 2023
One of the best decisions one can make in life is choosing the right life-partner. Someone 'not working as of now' evaluating others on the basis of their salary is a huge Red flag.
Choosing a wrong partner can change the trajectory of you life and Financials drastically. https://t.co/s2jgdelxem
— Aman Goel (@amangoeliitb) July 18, 2023
As a person going through the process, I can easily say that this disease is spreading like wildfire not only on social media but also irl as well.
Great advice to people in their mid 20s, find yourself a person who cares for you otherwise fall into the trap of these psychos. https://t.co/iqk6cQ2s7h— Yash Patadia (@PatadiaYash) July 18, 2023
Are you people expecting to find true love in arranged marriage or what 😂 arrange marriage system is like a market place where men are valued on the basis of their income & women on the basis of their looks. It's brutal & nothing like vivah movie. So kindly adjust to reality. https://t.co/c3vqE9pEx6
— sumi (@sumii0802) July 17, 2023
This is just such a sad confession.
You're 29 and unemployed and have the balls to judge men on their salaries, height, blah blah, there are levels of being shallow and then there's this.
Although, the fact that she wrote Mieback, yikes. https://t.co/jqOaOA3H3K
— ana (Taylor's Version) (@dukhhdardd) July 18, 2023
At least this is an economic demand. There was this girl whose requirement was, 'The boy shouldn't have parents so that there won't be any restrictions on her.’ https://t.co/x8Fcyy7KCt
— Aaraadhya Saxena 🇮🇳 (@ihailmyindia) July 18, 2023
Genuinely amazes me how Indians will choose the person they want to spend the rest of their life with based on just this info https://t.co/x1UJ8DJHOI
— Pranav Jannu (@PranavJannu3) July 17, 2023
What an absolute horror!