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This Post About A Woman Trying To Be An Individual Before A Daughter Is All Of Us At Some Time

bySusri Sahu
12th December 2016
2 minute read
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As a growing individual, we have all had those fights and arguments with parents over matters that seem to trouble the infamous ‘chaar log‘ (the invisible jury elected by the society) the most. No, there is no vindictiveness there but a certain sense of individualism, that tries to make itself heard.

But, shouldn’t the struggle be mutual? Shouldn’t parents also meet us halfway? While some do, there are so many parents that denounce their kid ‘bad’ because they dare to do it differently. This post by Humans of New York resonates the same feeling and you won’t help but cringe at the thought of the social barricade that divides the family, internally. Read the post here.

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“My parents are old school. We’re from Bolivia. The daughter isn’t supposed to leave the house until she’s married. But I left when I was nineteen because I couldn’t take the constant fighting about how to live my life. It’s not that I wanted to be promiscuous. I just wanted to explore New York and have black friends and white friends and gay friends. I’ve had a bad relationship with my parents ever since. I ended up marrying a Dominican boy from Corona. He’s been nothing but good to me. But they’ve never accepted him. We got married at City Hall. I’m thirty-three now. We just had our first child. So I thought things would finally get better with my parents. I thought we could relate as equals now that I have my own child. Maybe they’d finally accept my choices. But they’re still the same. My mother helps babysit my child while I’m at work. She does everything her own way. She criticizes all my decisions. When I insist on raising my child a certain way, she gets upset. She starts crying and reminds me that I left the house when I was nineteen. Then my father calls and yells at me for upsetting my mother. It breaks my heart. But I’m realising that a good relationship with my parents will always require doing exactly what they say.”

 

This just breaks my heart into a million pieces. Is this the progressive society we want to live in?

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