Toxic romantic relationships have been normalized so much that not many of us know what a healthy relationship looks like. When we are attracted to someone, we tend to look away from all the major and minor red flags they have and dive straight into having a relationship with them. But after some time, the red flags begin to show loud and clear and one still tries to stick to the relationship which then takes a very unhealthy turn.
A woman took to X (formerly Twitter) to ask other women who’ve been in healthy relationships to spell out what exactly it’s like being in one.
“I want to know like for all the girlies that have been in healthy relationships… HOW? What is the tea? What are you non-negotiable? What are the red flags that make you say hell no? How do you know if it’s going to be healthy? How…(sic),” she posted.
Here’s a look:
I want to know like for all the girlies that have been in healthy relationships… HOW? What is the tea? What are you non-negotiable? What are red flags that make you say hell no? How do you know if it’s going to be healthy? How…
— S (@Theylovestorm_) December 19, 2023
Several women responded to this post revealing what a truly healthy relationship looks like. It’s the one that has proper open communication, a certain bunch of boundaries set, empathy, the willingness to grow and change, treating your partner with the utmost respect even when there is a heated argument going on and so much more.
Here’s a look at some of the responses:
As long as you have someone who is as committed to the relationship as you are then you have all the room to create a healthy relationship. Communicating, willingness to understand, learn, and grow, compromising & remembering you’re both humans who have flaws.
— 🇹🇹🇯🇲 (@zwyddd) December 19, 2023
One thing I appreciate about my BF is how we disagree. There’s no name calling, low blows, physical altercations. Straight accountability and adult conversations. It’s always us vs the problem instead of me vs him. 2024 will make 4 years we’ve been together 🫶🏼
— Bri.♓️ (@__VanillaICE__) December 19, 2023
Communication, self awareness on both parties, willingness to grow and change. The concept nothing lasts forever is really important because your relationship should not be the same forever, it should be constantly changing and evolving as each individual partner grows!
— Isabella Bunty💙✨ (@isabellebunty) December 20, 2023
if he punches a wall at any time, run. if he ever says look what you made me do in anger after doing something hurtful or scary, run. if you are scared at any point, run. mommy issues? run
feeling secure, safe, and able to breathe is what’s most important.
— chad, american cutie (@endofanerajc) December 20, 2023
How a man speaks about women tells me everything.
— emily cheree (@cdxliv444) December 20, 2023
My folks always told me the “lineage” is important. Two parent households with strong mother and father energy. Anything less, automatic NO. No children out of wedlock, no children AT ALL if you yourself have none. You can walk in Chanel and buy a bag for yourself, can he do the…
— Deanesha Logan Fequa (@DeaneshaLogan) December 19, 2023
GIVE THEM SPACE AND PRIVACY! You need it and so do they.
Also, your dream man ideals might be toxic and you are push away the actual good guys! Oh and don’t talk about other guys or past relationships right away, you’re probably not over them and need to heal!— «lexclause&gigs» (@lexjeanne) December 20, 2023
A main component is communication. Lack of communication, misunderstandings, how you react to those misunderstandings/disagreements, etc. A healthy relationship will have both partners discussing issues and doing their best to figure out the best way forward for both people.
— Squid 🦑 (@SquydnieOG) December 20, 2023
Just knowing what you want and and deserve and actually sticking to it. You should know how want to be treated and if you’re not receiving that then those are your red flags. Most people are settling then want to complain about their person.
— 🔑 The Truth (@KiTheTruth22) December 19, 2023
First yall have to understand Healthy relationships are created & not fairytales. Then respect has to be established followed by communication. Also both people have to learn eachother, learn to compromise, learn to stand on boundaries, apologize and forgive when necessary.
— Mumzy™️📌 (@_saveyoursorrys) December 19, 2023
your non-negotiables are boundaries YOU put up, your red flags are things that are uncomfortable to YOU, and you will never know until you’re there
the best advice I can give is you need to be honest about yourself and your needs – whoever decides they want you regardless is it.
— ex waifu (@worstwaifu_) December 19, 2023
These points are a complete eye-opener!