In the age of digital matchmaking, one often ends up finding love through the intricacies of algorithms and shared interests. The same was the case of this 30-year-old guy who thought he had found his ideal match on Jeevansathi.com. This man hails from a village in North India and is now residing in Bengaluru.
“I’m a 30(M) connected with a 30(F) on Jeewanshathi.com a few months ago. Right from the start, our daily conversations lasted for over 3+ hours. Both of us are from a small village in northern India, living in Bangalore, and quickly developed a strong connection. My feelings for her grew rapidly, and I told her that I really love her.”
His conversations with his ideal match, a woman in her 30s too, went on for 3 long hours every day. They developed what seemed like a strong bond. According to the guy, both of them were warm-hearted, intelligent and smart and it seemed like they were a match made in heaven. However, things took an ugly turn, resulting in rejection. It was not because of differences between their individual value systems and personalities, but because of the remains of a traumatic incident in the past.
“She is nice, smart, intelligent, and kind-hearted same as me and we really enjoy each other company That’s why we have been talking to each other 3+h daily. She has said that she will be happy with me only and we both really be happy together.”
When the guy was 10 years old, his family suffered a fire incident in their house which left him with burn marks on his thigh and right hand. It didn’t have a massive impact on him in his day-to-day life, only that he wore a full-sleeved shirt in public. But these burn marks ultimately became the focal point of their relationship.
The woman rejected him because of the marks and said that if the marks weren’t there, she would have definitely married him. Even her parents were not agreeing to the marriage. He tried to convince her, but his efforts were in vain.
“She told me that we should not move forward because she is not able to digest the fact that she will be living with a guy with burn scars on his hands and thighs. Her parents are also not okay with this. If these burn scars are not there then it would have been a 100% YES for her. I have been trying to make her understand that we are so compatible and comfortable with each other in every way and this is not a big deal. I could not convince her.”
The guy took to Reddit to share the entire incident and sought advice from people online. Have a look:
Rejected for Indian Marriage Due to Burn Marks on Hand and Thigh
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Upon reading the post, several people thought that the guy dodged a bullet and he was better off not marrying her. They reasoned that if you truly love someone, you would do so with all their imperfections.
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This incident raises solid questions about societal expectations, beauty standards and acceptance. The idea that a person can reject another solely based on physical scars despite having formed an emotionally intimate relationship highlights how deeply ingrained societal beauty standards and prejudices can be.