In India, the concept of family honour holds immense significance. Families consider their honour as their social standing and integrity. There is an unwavering commitment to upholding one’s family honour and people are willing to make immense sacrifices, sometimes at great personal cost, to protect that honour and safeguard the reputation of each member.
The cancelling of a marriage poses a great question mark for the two families that are involved. The characters of the bride and groom are questioned; their mistakes are used as examples for younger generations.
Which is why, when one guy from Delhi got to know that the woman he was set to get married to was already in a live-in relationship with another guy, he decided to calmly think things through because his decision would not only affect the woman’s reputation and that of her family but will also affect women and girls belonging from the town she belonged from.
The guy is 29 years old, living in Delhi, and his marriage was fixed to a woman who belonged from the same hometown he did. He found out that she was living with a guy whom she claimed was his best friend but it was clear that they were in a live-in relationship. When he confronted the girl, she said it was a “one time” thing and it happened by mistake.
“I (29m), am engaged (arranged marriage) to a girl from my hometown. We both live in Delhi NCR. Recently I found out that she is living with someone who she claims is her best friend. When confronted, she is telling that it was just one time and happened by mistake,” he wrote.
He further asked people to help him come up with solid reasons why he should call off the wedding.
“I must give a solid reason to call off the wedding. Should I tell her parents the truth or just tell them that we are not compatible?”
Here’s a look at his post:
How do you call off your wedding, when you find out that your fiancee is the live-in relationship with someone?
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When some people online blatantly asked him to leave and tell the truth to his parents as well as hers, the guy highlighted that since they come from a small town, the woman will be used as as example for other regressive families to not let their girls study or work outside the city.
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But many people online insisted that he tell everyone the truth or if not, then just call off the wedding. Here’s what some of them said:
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The one thing that stood out for me was that the guy has such a big heart!