One would think that according to social convention, married couples have to sleep beside each other on the same bed throughout their lives. After all, what is the point of being married if you sleep in separate beds or live separately? But that is not the case. Innumerable married couples across the world choose to sleep in separate bedrooms because they crave their own space. It has nothing to do with how much or how little they love their spouse.
Popular American actress Cameron Diaz in a podcast urged people to normalize married couples sleeping in separate bedrooms.
“We should normalize separate bedrooms. To me, I would literally – I have my house, you have yours. We have the family house in the middle. I will go and sleep in my room. You go sleep in your room. I’m fine,” ABC quoted her saying.
This started a solid debate on social media. On the one hand, there were people who were absolutely not having it because otherwise, they don’t see a point in people being married in the first place. But on the other hand, there were several who thought this made sense. A lot of people want their own space and their own bed, they find it uncomfortable if their partner snores at night or there isn’t sufficient space in bed.
Here’s a look at some of the responses to Cameron Diaz’s statement:
Been living with my husband for 10 years and have never shared a bedroom (except for that 6-week stint when our twins were newborns). Sharing a bedroom just doesn't work for us and I wish more people were willing to admit this. I love my man down but/and I love having my own bdr. https://t.co/19jFku5zLq
— Jessica Malone Grider (@mrs_g_rider) December 20, 2023
I have sleep apneia and husband occasionally snores, we live in a 1 BD house w/ 2 dogs and I WFH. Also my parents would do this all the time. You can be secure in your relationship, intimacy and communication and still get the occasional good sleep! sidenote cam is rich https://t.co/Af16ArC8JQ pic.twitter.com/uYWcslEjKW
— k.elizabeth (@kathleenelee) December 20, 2023
My parents sleep in their own beds and they've been married for 11 yrs so https://t.co/Felznty3YM pic.twitter.com/BWF1r3IdE8
— meow meow meow⁷ (@hrteyes4hoseok) December 20, 2023
Before I got married, someone advised us to ALWAYS sleep in the same room, even when annoyed, because some way, some how, you will snuggle up together in the night time. It’s proven to be pretty true for me personally, but each to their own. https://t.co/Oz9bsl9dqC
— Oré. (@Ms_Ore) December 21, 2023
Can confirm this is what my parents do and they’ve been married for almost 32 years lmao https://t.co/GPL1fiYItj
— nik 🇵🇷 (@XXXMENSTRUACION) December 20, 2023
The older, married couple who live across the hall from me keep separate apartments on the same floor and visit each other daily. It’s quite cute. https://t.co/k8YtPxY6CR
— Jessica (@bayjb) December 21, 2023
i think separate bedrooms are healthy for like hobbies and space when needed, but ALWAYS sleeping separately is definitely a choice….
— viviana (fan) (@repmiIas) December 20, 2023
this is actually real because imagine sharing everything in one room like eventually you’ll want your own space
— Madboy (@takecarehours) December 20, 2023
She is so right because sleeping with someone who snores is not it
— grant (tired version) (@slade_tex) December 20, 2023
Its perfect to me! No one snoring and waking you up. Entire bed and blanket to yourself.
— LilHumansBigImpact (@BigImpactHumans) December 20, 2023
I agree with her! When you’ve been with your girl for a minute, having a little solo time becomes crucial. Space is key – even a day or two solo can do wonders. 💯
— Chombe (@Chombe1080) December 20, 2023
Do you think married couples could sleep in different rooms and not have it become a big deal? Tell us!