8 Guys Shared If They Would Buy Sanitary Pads For Their Women And You MUST Read This!

In India, girls are asked to stay hush about their periods, not talk about it. There are plenty of things she isn’t supposed to do, plenty of places, she isn’t supposed to be at and a hundred things she isn’t supposed to even touch.

But that was centuries ago, you say? No, not really? There is still a lot of stigma that exists. In an attempt to understand how deeply rooted it is, we sought answers from a Quora thread that asked guys if they would go and buy sanitary pads for their girlfriend, if she asked.

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And the answers just put everything in perspective. The stories they have to share, will make you understand that menstruating is just another bodily activity. There shouldn’t be shame attached to it or any kind of reluctance.

 

1.This girl peaks about an incident that happened to her when she was at her boyfriend’s house.

My first year in college, the boyfriend and I were working together completing a project in his house. I shifted uncomfortably in the chair, and got up to use the restroom . Two minutes later I yelled. It was my darn period and I had no sanitary pad/tampon.

Boyfriend went and got me one. I chewed my lip and asked “weren’t you embarrassed?” He looked at me perplexed. “You mean whether I would care more about what the guy at the checkout counter would think as opposed to your comfort? No I wasn’t embarrassed at all.”

Fast forward to years later. Now I am working. Boyfriend keeps a sanitary pad in my office bag in case I need one urgently, and keeps a Tampon in his bag, just in case. I didn’t know when he bought those supplies.

Get your priorities straight. If your girl doesn’t have a pad, she is in a very uncomfortable situation, and probably can’t go out immediately. Put her obvious discomfort over something you aren’t used to doing. It’s far from embarrassing.

 

2. This father says that it is as natural as buying a toothpaste, deodorant, or shampoo for your loved one. He writes about buying pads for his eldest daughter. He writes –

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When my oldest step daughter got her first period, I hit the deck running. I went to get her some maxi pads, some fuzzy fleece PJ pants, a heating pad, a fleece throw, and of course, her favorite chocolate. I wasn’t embarrassed one bit and I wanted her to know and understand how a significant other or loved one should treat her. 
I also wanted her to understand how important it is for her to pass the same compassion forward when her little sister goes through the same thing or if one of her friends has a similar need. Dealing with a period is hard enough for women, those who love them shouldn’t add to it because of their own insecurity.

 

3. This husband says that his wife does everything for him on a regular basis, it’s only fair to reciprocate the favour. Even before she asks for it.

My wife is kind enough to wash my stinky laundry sometimes. She’s certainly had to wipe pee splatter off the toilet seat or pick up my gross, used tissues when I’m sick. She’s had to touch my used dental floss that didn’t make it all the way into the trash can. She’s had to scrub my scummy beard hairs out of the sink if I missed a spot cleaning up after shaving.

My wife is very kind in tolerating these consequences of my humanness. I love her very much and it’s a pleasure to reciprocate! Certainly better than letting her feel not loved or not respected! Buying tampons is way less gross then any of the above chores anyway. Not gross at all, in fact.

 

 

4. This guy writes that he has bought them a numerous times, but for the first two times, he was ashamed to ask the shopkeeper. This is because he did not want any attention. But later he writes,

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The third time I confirmed with shopkeeper as I got rid of my shy feeling, somehow I did remind myself of the stuff like “we are in an advanced century “, “there’s nothing wrong in this”, and more to make that bold move.
I can’t imagine myself how girls could manage such situations when they face for the first time.

 

 

5. This guy, makes a point you just can’t ignore!

How weird do you have to be to NOT buy sanitary pads for your girlfriend if she asked? What’s the message here? “I love you, but not enough to help you manage your internal bleeding?”

 

6. This guy says that he doesn’t understand why in world would any guy be ASHAMED of buying a product of hygiene?

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As a male, I am not ashamed to say that I rather like knowing that part of my girlfriends anatomy is being taken care of. I spend a fair amount of time in there (if I play my cards right), and if buying wads of cotton are part of the cover charge for entry, then sign me up.

Seriously why wouldn’t a guy buy them for his girlfriend? Are you afraid that the clerk is going to think that whilst in the store, a chromosomal miracle has occurred, and you have spawned a vagina which was automatically menstruating? Yeah “Uhhh we need a cleanup on isle 5, and just a reminder shoppers due to a small radiation leak on isle 6 spontaneous genesis of a mangina may occur. Thanks for shopping at Vag Mart”. What are you, 6 years old?

I mean lets face it, menses is not fun for anyone. Why be embarrassed? Guys, you are helping her out in her time of need, she will return the favor. She washes your streaked underwear (shut up, it happens, men are not the cleanest of Gods creatures) so suck it up buttercup.

 

7. This guy recounts an incident that happened to him and feels terrible that his girlfriend felt ashamed to ask him to buy sanitary pads.

2–3 years ago, my girlfriend and I had planned to meet up for lunch one day. On her way she realised that she had started menstruating, a bit earlier than usual, and she didn’t have her emergency sanitary pads.

As she was travelling by local train in Mumbai, she called me up and asked me if it would be okay for me to buy sanitary pads for her and meet her at the station itself. I have to say that she felt very ashamed to ask me this as, supposedly, it is not common for an Indian girl to ask some male to buy sanitary pads.

 

8. This guy says that he will not only buy sanitary pads for her but will also go an extra mile to make her feel comfortable. He writes –

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I would buy anything she needs and everything that helps her to feel good and comfy, I would also buy chocolates or whatever she loves to eat to overcome the pain they usually had been feeling those days, I would distract her by doing activities she likes, and I would do anything that could help her in every possible way.

So, how will you feel after helping someone to overcome the pain they had to face every single month?
It feels great, right?

Obviously, it does feel great when you can something for others and as she is your girlfriend it would give you immense happiness and you will feel the same by helping others as well.

 

Thank God for Quora, we have these wonderful answers to look at.

We need to understand that mensuration/periods/chums is a BODILY activity. It’s not gross, or awkward, or anything to be ashamed of. It is something that happens to a woman’s body every month and she needs to be taken care of in those times. She, most certainly doesn’t deserve to go through it without love, concern and TAMPONS. So, go get her one!

Let’s take this discussion forward from here, would you do this for your girlfriend and why? Let us know in the comments below.

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