Recovering from a parent’s loss is something that can’t be described in words. I’m sure those who have gone through these tough times would never want anyone else to go through it.
But sometimes, we stumble upon something or go through an experience that helps us cope with our grief. For this Twitter user, it was Bollywood actor Shah Rukh Khan who gave her the strength to deal with her mom’s demise.
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Twitter user Shruti Sonal was shattered and all over the place after she lost her mother two years ago.
“It feels like it happened yday, but also years ago. For months, I asked the same question as Fleabag: what do I do? What do I do with all the love I have for her?” she expressed in a tweet.
In May, it will be 2 years since I lost my mother. It feels like it happened yday, but also years ago. For months, I asked the same question as Fleabag: what do I do? What do I do with all the love I have for her? That's when I found SRK's interviews on the loss of his parents. pic.twitter.com/Ju8771WMyn
— Shruti Sonal (@shrutisonal26) February 3, 2023
It was during these testing times that she found an interview in which SRK was talking about losing his parents.
“I don’t think any other figure in the public space has spoken so vulnerably on what it really means. The inability to save them, the regrets about having things left unsaid, the craving to hear their voice one last time,” she wrote in the Twitter thread attaching a video where King Khan was seen sharing how he bid his mother goodbye.
I don’t think any other figure in the public space has spoken so vulnerably on what it really means. The inability to save them, the regrets about having things left unsaid, the craving to hear their voice one last time. pic.twitter.com/tcARHhIolJ
— Shruti Sonal (@shrutisonal26) February 3, 2023
Sonal went on to share that even after years, it creates a fear of close attachments.
“A part of us, which remains cracked, anxious, and lonely. On many nights, I’ve woken up sweating, afraid that if I love someone too much, they’ll be snatched away from me. I’ve cherished solitude.” (sic)
Even in the interview, SRK is seen saying that he’s scared of attachments and the only time he cries is when he loses his loved one.
Or the fact that, even years later, it creates a fear of close attachments. A part of us, which remains cracked, anxious, and lonely. On many nights, I’ve woken up sweating, afraid that if I love someone too much, they’ll be snatched away from me. I’ve cherished solitude. pic.twitter.com/yHqc5gsTEO
— Shruti Sonal (@shrutisonal26) February 3, 2023
Despite all these thoughts wandering in her mind, she kept going back to SRK’s interviews that reminds her that love and loss can co-exist.
“But I’ve kept going back to his interviews. As a reminder that love and loss (and art) can co-exist. They must co-exist. And the lives we lead must be the flowers we put on the graves of people we love. Especially those who gave birth to us.” (sic)
But I’ve kept going back to his interviews. As a reminder that love and loss (and art) can co-exist. They must co-exist. And the lives we lead must be the flowers we put on the graves of people we love. Especially those who gave birth to us. #ShahRukhKhan𓀠 #WritingCommunity pic.twitter.com/zUx7sOMlgc
— Shruti Sonal (@shrutisonal26) February 3, 2023
On reading her heartfelt emotions, people online were teary-eyed. This is how they reacted:
Thank you for posting these. I didn’t know they existed. It will be 2 years since mom for me in June. Its strange how talking about losing parents is such a rarity in public life everyone’s like ye to sab ke saath hota hai so move on. But shouldn’t we be speaking more coz of that
— Kajal K Iyer (@Kajal_Iyer) February 3, 2023
Losing a parent is something like driving through a plate glass window. You didn’t know it was there until it shattered, and then for years to come you’re picking up the pieces — down to the last glassy splinter…… found this on the internet – so powerful . Never easy , never
— Gurmeet Sahani (@gsahani) February 3, 2023
Grief comes in waves … and these waves are sometimes too strong to handle no matter what kind of loss it was. Thank you Shruti for sharing this.
— Mayank Aggarwal (@journomayank) February 3, 2023
Hope this helps..One of the best description of what one goes through in grief. pic.twitter.com/Ckcv6IasfS
— Chamatkari Patrakar (@ChamatkariBaba) February 3, 2023
We learn to live with Grief….
Thank you very much for sharing wonderful lessons 👍🏻🙏
— Saurav_Kumar (@SauravK1890) February 3, 2023
It is difficult to see tears in your parents eyes and it breaks your heart when you see them ageing. But death being the universal truth can never be negated. One can never recover from such loss. But to live, we must learn to cope with grief. Thanks for the thread.
— Chinmayee Gayatree Sahu (@ChinmayeegG) February 4, 2023
Oh, I truly feel you. Power to you.
— Chetna Katyall Sundaram🇮🇳 (@Chetna_sundaram) February 4, 2023
Grief is tiring but masking that grief is whole another level of tiredness….
He gets it and that is why I suppose he thought of having grief and not the masking part… hope we all can overcome that part.
— Joe (@bhi_ho_soho) February 3, 2023
Everyone has a different way to deal with grief. Glad that SRK, even though virtually, was able to make you feel at ease. More power to you.