It’s amazing how with time our roles reverse. We suddenly start parenting our parents, teaching them about the current trends and technology, making them aware of fraudsters, and sometimes making the final decision on important matters.
We see them turning into careless kids from independent, responsible, and strong adults. While we surely enjoy taking their responsibilities, it’s a bitter-sweet feeling to watch them take a back seat.
They also sometimes annoy us by not taking take care of themselves and becoming rigid for no reason, just like we were as kids. While they handled us with love and care back then, it’s hard for some of us to replicate the same emotion to them in their old age.
Taking to Twitter, journalist Deepika Narayan Bhardwaj questioned why parents become so rigid in old age.
“Why do they revolt if we ask them not to do something for their own health? What’s the way to deal with parents if they’re not willing to listen at all? It’s just so annoying.”
Why do parents become so rigid in old age ? Why do they revolt if we ask them not to do something for their own health ? What's the way to deal with parents if they're not willing to listen at all ?
It's just so annoying 😭😫😭
— Deepika Narayan Bhardwaj (@DeepikaBhardwaj) April 21, 2023
Deepika shared that her parent wants to go to the market that too on a scooty even though it’s been just three months since his bypass surgery.
Unko sabzi mandi jaana hai vo bhi scooty par vo bhi shaam ko 😭😭😭 abhi 3 mahine hue hain bypass ko
— Deepika Narayan Bhardwaj (@DeepikaBhardwaj) April 21, 2023
A lot of us would have definitely gone through this with our ageing parents, and so did many people on Twitter.
Hence, they decided to share how they dealt with the situation and the reason why parents behave like a stubborn kid in their old age.
It’s revenge time. Cause you didn’t listen to them when you were a child 😂
— Dr. Mahendra, MD Psychiatry (@drmahi17) April 22, 2023
Relatable. I think my parents are just taking revenge.. as I was a stubborn child 🤣
— Tejaswini (@tejaswinih) April 21, 2023
You cannot do much, try to influence as much as you can, but let them do what they feel like.
And the fact is everyone, each one of us would become rigid when we are old too; and the qualities that we dislike of them mostly would define us in our old age..
— Ramkrishna Iyer (@KannanK51531500) April 22, 2023
You can’t do much here. It’s difficult for them to change their age old beliefs.
Be reasonable with them. Do not expect them to stop something or start something with pinpoint adherence. Try to incorporate stuff slow and gradual.
Rest feel free to discuss details on whtsapp.
— Pathik Joshi💪 (@pathikj80) April 22, 2023
Maybe the generation gap, and they want their happy time always, don’t want to do anything, just sit back and relax.
Rest, some things can be ignored while we take good care of them.
— Gagan Sokhey (@waveringmindz) April 22, 2023
It’s natural, they have entered the second childhood phase.
— Mitul (@mehta_mitul77) April 22, 2023
We can’t…they will come with only one reply…don’t teach us,we gave you birth 😏
— Dr Meghanath (@dr_MNY) April 21, 2023
in old age person wants to retain his mental and physical autonomy, and view flailing health, the need to reaffirm his strength and vigour to himself overpowers his reason.
That’s why younger persons see an older person as stubborn and unreasonable.
— निवेशक (@Niveshak_) April 22, 2023
when kids don’t listen, sometimes they get a smack
can’t do that with older parents, though bachpan comes back in budhapa, with an arrogant vengeance, because of the life lived, learned, earned etc
how do you deal with kids? thoda pyar, thoda darr, thoda emotional atyachar…
— JabarDasti (@jabardasti) April 21, 2023
It happens with most of us. Just treat them like you would treat a child. Pyar se hi samjhana padega unko. Remember they are parents and they’d always think they know better ( even if they don’t).
— ꧁༺ 𝓐𝓛𝓑𝓤𝓢 𝓑𝓡𝓘𝓐𝓝 𝓓𝓤𝓜𝓑𝓛𝓔𝓓𝓞𝓡𝓔 ༻꧂ (@PenduProfessor) April 22, 2023
My father stopped smoking aftr a bypass surgery. He started smoking again aftr few years. Had a huge fight with him,stoppd talking to him evn for an yr. He dint evn bother. Nw i hv jst gvn up. He is 77. & he is chain smoking. I hv gone into let him do wht he wants mode🙄
— SUKANYA🇮🇳#SaveSoil (@RSUKANYA8) April 22, 2023
1. One need wisdom in order to change other people’s karma. And one need patience to see the transformation. Habits with negative effects can be replaced by good habits.
— Xiang (@RongXiang06) April 23, 2023
Calm down please
They are feeling vulnerable and scared
They don’t show it but react by being stubborn
You need to be patient 🙏
— CoachSudhir 🇮🇳 (@SudhirPuthran) April 21, 2023
We see our parents cribbing to take their medicines, wanting to do things that make us anxious about their safety, and doing unreasonable things that can have adverse effects. But isn’t that what we used to do as kids too? Probably this is how life comes to a full circle.