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Mom’s Post About Co-Parenting With Her Ex-Husband’s Wife Will Teach You Something About Love!

bySusri Sahu
24th August 2017
3 minute read
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Love is not a game for the faint-hearted. But you know what is more challenging? Braving a breakup and being an adult about it. Especially if you have a child to look after. I mean we’ve all had our share of heartbreaks but the day you realise you’re too big for blame games, is the day you truly move on.

While you might find people who fall off to the bitter end of the deal (break), there are still people who are leading us with examples. People who take the highway and stay partners for a greater good. People who believe in sharing a healthy bond with their ex’s partner and teach us a thing or two about co-parenting. If you’re finding it hard to believe let me elucidate with a real-life example.

Meet Hayley Booth from Oklahoma who is not only co-parenting her beautiful daughter with her ex, Caleb Quattrone but also Caleb’s wife, Dakota Pitman. In fact, in a Facebook post, Hayley has penned a beautiful note about her girl’s ‘bonus mommy’. 

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“Often times I have people ask me how my ex, his wife, my husband and I co-parent so flawlessly. My answer is always the same– We just love our daughter.?
Seriously, it’s just that simple.
We all love her, and nothing will ever change that.
No child deserves to be tossed around back and forth, used as a bargaining chip, or to be put in the middle of any adult drama. She didn’t choose to be born, and she certainly never chose for her parents to get divorced. Why would we make her life any harder by making her choose which set of parents to love?
My daughter calls her bonus mommy ‘Mommy’.. and you know what? That’s okay because that’s what she is to her, she IS her mommy. She is there for her always, she takes care of her, she plays with her, she teaches her life lessons and how she should behave, she gives her hugs and kisses goodnight, she does everything any mother would do. But most of all she loves her like she is her own. It takes a very special woman to take a child that they didn’t give birth to, under their wing and become their mother.
I see so many women say ‘I would never let my child call another woman mom or mommy because she’s NOT her mom I AM!’ Well, you know what? You’re being selfish. If you are lucky enough for your ex to have a woman who loves YOUR child or children like their own, and one who helps raise them and shape them, why would you not allow them to call a woman they love mommy? Why would you put your child in the position to feel like they have to choose who they love? I would never tell my daughter she can’t call her bonus mommy ‘mommy’ because it would hurt her deeply. She is her mommy not only when she spends time with her dad, but all the time.
Sometimes you just have to put the petty little things aside, to raise your child to be the amazing human being they are meant to be.
My daughter isn’t the only one who loves her bonus mommy, I love her too. She’s become one of my best friends and I rely on her for many things. She is one of the strongest people I know, and I am thankful for her every day.
Don’t tell me that peaceful co-parenting isn’t possible because it is. I know it is. Because I do it every day. It takes a village to raise a child, and I am beyond thankful for my village!
Are you? Pictured- Our daughter and her two mommies walking her to her classroom on the first day of school.

Isn’t it just wonderful?

 

Needless to say, the post is melting a lot of hearts on the internet, with over 26,000 shares and more than 22,000 reactions (and counting).

 

In fact, it has also invited a lot of heart-warming comments. Especially this one from the ‘bonus mommy’ herself. 

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Need I say more? But if you insist; love and only unconditional love can make this happen!

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