19 Questions You Need To Ask Yourself When You’re Planning To Break Up With Someone

Break-up.

A heart wrenching, heart rendering thing most of us go through. But not necessarily for the right reasons. We break away from a person destroying every link that we put in the bridge that kept us together. And one day we wake up and feel like severing and collapsing that bridge so that it doesn’t exist anymore and pretend that it never existed.

Before breaking someone’s heart and your own in the process, everyone should ask these questions to themselves in order to make the best decision possible.

1. Am I jumping to conclusions too quickly?

Ask yourself this repeatedly at every stage of your thought process because this question will decide your fate.

 

 

2. Have I always made myself clear about my needs to him/her? Have I been unfairly expectant of them to just understand on their own?

It’s a time to introspect. If they never know what you mean, they’re bound to make a few mistakes along the way. You cannot expect another person to understand everything you feel without you expressing them.

 

3. Am I just trying to run away? Am I trying to justify my baseless excuses to get out of this?

Do you just want to run away and are desperately looking for any petty excuse to bolt? Do you really want to be that person?

 

4. Have I become habituated to giving excuses for his/her behavior towards me?

Have you been covering up for their abuses, physical or mental for too long now? Is that what is really happening to you?

 

5. Have I done everything in my power to save this relationship?

Your contribution means as much as their contribution in keeping the boat floating.

 

6. Have I taken note of what he/she is doing to save us?

You cannot play the “Me” card every time. See if they’ve really done everything in their power to save your relationship.

 

7. Is someone influencing my views on our relationship?

Are your friends or people around you putting you in a spot where you’re not thinking with your own mind?

 

8. Are my fears concerning us even realistic? Are my issues solvable?

This is the most crucial question that’ll either make it or break it.

 

9. Has all this happened before? Am I repeating my mistakes all over again?

Your track record might have something to do with what you’re feeling.

 

10. What would happen if I give this another chance?

Explore this option before going for other options after the breakup.

 

11. Are we both trying to change each other constantly?

The answer to this question depends on your compatibility with your partner.

 

12. Am I being true to myself?

Are you?

 

13. What was the reason I fell for him/her in the first place? Is it still a valid reason to be with him/her?

See if it takes you back to the good times and if you want to bring them back.

 

14. Has “deserve” become a staple word in my vocabulary? Is it justified?

It’s a toxic word. Realize it.

 

15. Am I in it just because of how much I’ve invested myself in this relationship?

You don’t owe anything to anyone if this relationship is going downhill.

 

16. Do I see a long term potential in us? Does it really matter?

It’s something that nobody else should have a say in, but your partner.

 

17. Do we have serious trust issues?

Without trust, it’s a useless struggle.

 

18. Is the past really so important than the present? Can I let go of it?

The Past is gone. Stop bringing it in the present because all it does is ruin everything for you. If letting go of something is going to make the future better, then it’s worth taking the effort to get rid of it.

 

19. Do I love him/her? Even a little bit?

If you find yourself saying yes, I’m sure it’ll beat all the odds. If not, love is just around the corner, for both of you. 🙂
All you need is patience.

Think before you act and act before the time is gone.

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