In our society, it is kind of a given that a woman, after marriage, will have to leave her parents’ house and move to her husband’s house. It is considered her duty to such an extent that she is often referred to as ‘paraya dhan’ – someone else’s wealth – from the moment she is born. However, if a man decided to leave his house and his parents and live separately with his wife, then society points a finger at the woman and calls her a “home breaker”. Nobody calls the husband a home breaker when a woman leaves her parents to go and live with him.
Can you spot the hypocrisy?
When a man decides to live separately with his wife, suddenly everyone starts raising questions that are mostly directed towards the woman and not the man.
Biwi ne uksaya hoga.
Ladke ko maa baap se dur kar rahi hai.
Ghar todne wali ladki.
These are some of the many common sayings that the woman has to hear from society at large. And people online have been debating about this on Twitter. The discussion started when one user @girlwithwingss highlighted how it isn’t fair that a guy is suddenly reminded of his parents’ sacrifices and his responsibilities when he decides to move out, but no one bats an eye when a woman has to move out from her parent’s home after marriage.
If funny how girl leaving her family after marriage is unquestionable, but when it comes to a man leaving his family, all of sudden everyone remember parents sacrifice, they have risen us, responsibilities, gave education etc etc…
Doesn't girl's parents too do all these?
— 🌸 (@girlwithwingss) March 30, 2023
Several others weighed in on this topic. Some even shared personal experiences of how female members of their family have to answer to the elders about why they are visiting their parents and when will they be coming back. Have a look:
They even call girl as home wrecker, the who came to snatch their son what not
— GirlwithNoName (@MyMerakiSoul) March 30, 2023
Funny that this tweet showed up bc my mom, close to 60 now literally just last week went to visit my dad’s w dad after a long time & STILL had MIL ask “you’re also going to visit your home? how many days are you going to stay there? Not too many days na”?? 🤯🤯💥💥🤦🏽♀️
— eyeroll (@pfftttx4) March 31, 2023
Exactly, ladka shadi ke baad dusre ghar mein shift hone ki baat kare to sabse pehla khayal sabke dimag mein yahi aata hai ki jaroor iski biwi ne hi “uksaya” hoga, uksaya my God, wo to khud apna ghar chodke aayi hai
— AP30 (Garimaa named me Ms. Tanasane) (@actingpassion30) March 30, 2023
No guy or guy’s family will ever speak against this tradition. Because ofcourse unko kya taqleef ho rahi hai it’s a win win for them in every way. It’s us girl who have to speak against it again and again, for years, to bring any change.
— 𝑀𝒶𝓁𝓁𝒾𝓀𝒶 💫🕊️ (@Mallika_321) March 30, 2023
Girl needs permission to visit her parents in some cases even to talk to them and in some cases they are treated so horribly but if you use exact words we are besharam
— Kuleena (@kathizina) March 30, 2023
And then women are called..
Home breakers🙂
Mere bache ko chheen le gyi rey dayan. Yahi sikhaaya hai kya maa baap ne.
— ꜱɪᴍɪ ᴛʜᴇ ɢʀᴇᴀᴛ (@YesMeriJaanSimi) March 30, 2023
It’s funnier that even parents themselves don’t give a damn about their girls leaving them forever, but when a boy plans to move out, suddenly they are all vigilant.
— Meghaan Galaxy (@meghaan_galaxy) March 31, 2023
Girls will always be judged, namecalled and what not just for asking bare minimum after marriage.
Leave aside everything, she will even be stopped to give money to her parents which she herself earned.
Most funny part is, it is another woman (mother in law) who does it.
— 🌸ᵐᴊᴋ (@OhhGodItsMe) March 30, 2023
There is no looking away from the fact that many of our age-old traditions are sexist, misogynist and downright regressive. In order for society to change for the better, our mindsets need to change first.