A while back, Indian men on Twitter discussed their candid thoughts on their wives earning more than them. Some were proud of them while others admitted to a little discomfort with the situation. Now, wildlife photographer Sagar has initiated discourse on women choosing to keep their maiden surnames post-marriage by giving the example of his own wife.
My wife didn’t change her last name post marriage & I never had a problem with that. In fact her identity was restored for what she worked very hard for. She is more successful than me & I am super proud of her. She zoomed past my accomplishments post marriage. Whats your story?
— Sagar (@sagarontheright) October 17, 2020
Many people joined in the conversation with stories of their moms, daughters, and even themselves which quickly turned into a positive and inspiring Twitter thread.
Even I didn’t change my surname post marriage, It didn’t make any difference to either of us..
Though time to time ppl do address me as Ms. Bal..and my husband as Mr. Jaiswal 🤣🤣— Minakshi Jaiswal (@MinakshiJaisw18) October 19, 2020
Not only did my daughter not change her surname.. Her kids have both their surnames. Who says daughters don’t carry on the family name
— R (@digitaltrendz22) October 18, 2020
Same with us. My wife didn’t change her surname & it should never be imposed on them. Our little one carries both our surnames. So he is carrying his Nanke & dadke.
— PeGayaSaiyaapa (@GauravV1j) October 18, 2020
I didn’t change my surname either, for us it was as normal as my husband not changing his. There was no question about it. In my practice now I see more & more couples where wife has retained her maiden surname & I love the fact that it’s normalising now. It’s all about choice.
— Dr Sulbha KG Arora (@SulbhaArora) October 18, 2020
My wife dont have a second name since beginning. All her IDs have single first name which remained the same after marriage.
Last year I did not get salary for more than 6 months, it was her who took care of the expenses. Beat this now 😂
— Zaffar (@Zaffar_Nama) October 18, 2020
My mother did not change her last name. My parents did not add last any name to both my & my bro’s names & said-apna naam khud banao. It was my bro’s conscious choice to add my father’s surname while registering for his sec. school exams. I am married now & continue to be PURWA.
— Purwa 🙂 (@Purwa18) October 18, 2020
Some women spoke of adding their husband’s surname to their existing name and a few discussed why they decided to change their surname altogether.
Retained my maiden name and added his surname too. Quit the corporate after eight successful years soon after marriage, only because he had my back. Took degrees & certification & started my ventures. If I have wings today, he’s the wind beneath them.
— Neha (@itsstillneha) October 18, 2020
Changing or not changing your surname is inconsequential. A woman needs to be respected and given independence to live her life as she deems right for her and her family. Same is true for a man.
— Namrata Wakhloo (@NamrataWakhloo) October 18, 2020
Being a successful business I’ve had no issues about changing my name. It may be a woman’s choice but it’s the smallest change in any marriage. I feel it odd when a couple use different names. When two individuals can get together to become one it’s ok to change a name! 😊
— Vasanthi (@VadiVasanthi) October 18, 2020
Whether a woman changes her name or not, the bottom line is that she gets to decide!