9 Not So Perfect Realities You Have To Accept If You Want A Lasting Relationship

The feeling you get after a fresh relationship starts is incomparable to any other feeling you experience otherwise. It kind of gives you a purpose to live, to look good, to be nice and polite, and a purpose to thank God for your life. There is a reason it’s called the honeymoon phase. Nothing can go wrong in those 6 months. Even if you fight, you make up sooner than anyone can expect.

But, then the relationship matures. People say that the passion dies down and the fire extinguishes, but I happened to enjoy the latter part of the relationship more than the prior. It is the time when love grows and when you start to understand the importance of that person in your life and start falling in love with little things about them you didn’t know earlier.

But, most of the relationships break after a certain period of time and only a few survive every possible obstacle and metamorphose into successful marriages/relationships. There is a reason why some people don’t break-up and still continue to be in love. It is because they have figured out a way to make all those possibilities of break-up vanish.

Here are few inconvenient realities you need to accept for a lasting relationship.

1. You can’t have a problem with any person of opposite gender they are friends with

You need to trust them and their decisions. However close that special friend is, he/she is a part of their life and that relationship is separate from the relationship they share with you. It can be a little hard to accept, but if they have to stop talking to their friends to please you, then this relationship is not right.

 

2. You can’t interfere in their financial decisions

Unless and until it is a super foolish plan and promises a waste of huge amount or any illegal activity, it’s none of your business where they spend their money. You should not have a problem with them spending cash on their family, friends etc. It’s completely their call.

 

3. You WILL have to compromise sometimes

Yes, you have to give them their space, but being too practical about everything can drift you apart and drain all the love out of your relationship. Cancel your plans sometimes and surprise them. Spend time with them, without them begging you to do it. Rent their favourite movie sometimes instead of yours to see a smile on their face. It will keep that spark alive.

 

4. It won’t be like the first time

There will be new times and the experience will change every time. You can’t blame the other person saying, “You used to write poems for me earlier, now you don’t.” People also mature along with the relationship, so don’t expect everything to be exactly the same.

 

5. You might become their punching bag sometimes, but that’s okay!

When a relationship matures, people become emotionally close. So, they tend to vent at times when they don’t know what else to do. You have to learn to let that go and not fire back because you are the one person they have, and if you start bashing them too, they’ll collapse.

 

6. You can’t accompany them ‘everywhere’.

They might have a meeting with an old friend you don’t know, they might want to jog alone every morning, or might have a work trip where they need to be alone. You have to be understanding enough to give your partner their much-needed space.

 

7. It’s okay to have different choices

If she doesn’t like your favourite movie, or he doesn’t like the new dress you just bought, it’s okay! You are two different individuals with different choices. Don’t try to change yourself according to the other person.

 

8. It’s not always about sex

It’s important to keep your sex life active, but you have to start looking at things beyond that too. If you don’t have anything to do outside of the bedroom, car, kitchen or wherever you prefer to get down and dirty, it’s just lust, not love.

 

9. You have to drop the past and start afresh

If you want a lasting relationship, you have to make peace with your partner’s past. You can’t bring it up every time you are upset or frustrated. This habit can make them resent you.

Love is like a small flower. You have to nurture it very carefully so that it blooms beautifully!

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