Everyone travels and we all love travelling. College trips, guided tours, family trips, friends on a road trip, the list never ends. What is common, though, is love. Either you rekindle your love with your partner, or you find new love.
But, here’s the catch. Love found during a vacation hardly ever lasts
1. You are vulnerable.
You don’t know what you should expect and can’t predict what’s going to happen. You are by yourself and you would like some familiarity around you. Falling in love at a point when you’re weak won’t go down well and you’ll realise that you have excess baggage when you return.
2. The trip itself is a temporary one.
Unless you’re relocating, any kind of travelling you do isn’t going to last. A relationship that develops in such a zone will also be looked at as temporary and trust me, you do not want that.
3. You are out of your comfort zone.
When you’re in a new surrounding, you’d want anything you have from back home to latch on to, just for that little sense of assurance and comfort. Falling in love seems like the perfect thing to do, but you won’t need it when you’re back in your own bubble.
4. You are in love with the idea of love
Love, actually, and the idea of love, are two very different things. You play it over in your head how beautiful it will be falling in love in the mountains, on the beach, in a foreign land; but all of that is in your head, and it’s the idea of love you are obsessed about.
5. Everything seems beautiful when travelling
Scenic lands, best clothes, and a fortnight of only enjoyment and zero work. Who wouldn’t like it? It all seems so…perfect, doesn’t it? But perfect doesn’t last, and perfect isn’t what will take you through life. Neither will a perfect relationship born in the sky.
6. Movies/books have also romanticised it loads
DO NOT EVEN GET ME STARTED ON THIS! More than half of our sparkly expectations of love in the time of travelling come from the beautifully set and structured storylines of our favourite books and movies. Revelation: Not gonna happen in real life.
7. Less number of disagreements
You don’t want to have fights or arguments when you’re having such a good time yourself, hence fewer topics will arise which might lead you to disagreements. People often take this as a wrong sign and think that they’re very compatible. Sadly, that’s the hardly the case.
8. People are not entirely themselves
People go to explore when they travel. Outwardly, of course, but inwardly too. They want to be someone they can’t be in their daily lives, and hence, either they are in the midst of going through a change or are not completely their own selves. Not a good pointer for falling in love.
9. People look for an escape while travelling
We travel to get a breath of fresh air, away from the mundane life we go through every day back where we came from. At this time, the last thing people need is another attachment when they are getting away from others.
10. Most importantly: Falling in love is easy, maintaining it is hard
When everything is good and perfect and looks nice to the eyes, it’s easy to fall in love with your co-traveller. Keeping the above points in mind, it will become extremely difficult to get back to the daily life of a relationship that looked great in photographs.
Think twice before taking any step. A wise thing to do would be to give it time, see if it fades, and if not, something can be worked out when both of you return to the comfort of your everyday lives.