No relationship in the world is perfect, there are ups and downs on the way that teach you a lot about the other person. But if the relationship starts going nowhere but downhill, it is better to end it at once than endure the pain by dragging it for nothing.
In a recent post, Humans Of New York have shared the story of a woman who has ended up in a sore relationship with a man who wants total control over her life. The story is not too long, but it paints a vivid picture of the ordeal the lady is going through.
The story reads:
“We’ve been together for twenty years. I’ve never dated anyone else. But there’s no intimacy. There’s no ring on the finger. He doesn’t even want his family to know we’re together. Maybe it’s my weight. Maybe it’s a status thing. But he keeps me away from his family. I accidentally sat by his sister at a basketball game, and his jaw nearly dropped to the floor. We’ve only made love once. That was twelve years ago. He won’t kiss me or touch me. I’ve just stopped asking. But he insists that we’re in a relationship. He got mad when I tried to change my relationship status to ‘single.’ He got on my computer and changed it back. I didn’t even know that he knew my password. I told myself that I was OK with it. I told myself that I’m OK with not being touched. But I don’t think I am. I recently went to a therapist for the first time. I was so scared he’d find out that I parked my car next door. But maybe it would be good if he found out. Maybe he’d leave me and give me a chance.”
The story has a very important life lesson hidden in it that sometimes it is important to stand up and speak for yourself rather than suffering in silence.
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