Haven’t we heard siblings shout their lungs out debating who is loved more by the parents? And while the second and the third one indulge in an aggressive pillow fight, the third one is expected to be the referee to calm them down.
Even between two siblings, the eldest one is expected to handle any crisis maturely even though they don’t agree with the situation. This is when one feels that being the eldest sibling isn’t a blessing TBH.
A criminal lawyer named Deity also feels that being the eldest daughter is a pain. Hence, in a lengthy Twitter thread, she vent her frustration and shared why it’s worse.
“As the eldest daughter I feel like it is my responsibility to take care of everyone and everything. From making everyone at home eat their meals, making tea and snacks for guests, handling every crisis with a calm mind, taking care of everyone’s emotions, understanding everyone….” (contd.)
As the eldest daughter I feel like it is my responsibility to take care of everyone and everything. From making everyone at home eat their meals, making tea and snacks for guests, handling every crisis with a calm mind, taking care of everyone’s emotions, understanding everyone,
— Deity (@gharkakabutar) April 18, 2023
“Helping out at home and at the office, knowing everyone’s likes and dislikes, taking care of their allergies, guiding my siblings in the right direction, being good at academics, handling all the accounts, maintaining family relations…” (contd.)
Smiling all the time even though you are worried or tensed or sad, disregarding your health to take care of others, always saying yes to everything, making sure you don’t even accidentally hurt anyone, apologise even if it’s not your fault, blame yourself for everything,
— Deity (@gharkakabutar) April 18, 2023
She concluded her thread by saying that she has to be the happiest person at home so she can make everyone around her happy.
“I have to make sure everything is perfect! And if something goes wrong, it feels like it is all because of me. It’s the worst.”
And so much more!! I have to be the happiest person at home so that I can make everyone around me happy! I have to make sure everything is perfect! And if something goes wrong, it feels like it is all because of me. It’s the worst.
— Deity (@gharkakabutar) April 18, 2023
She explained in detail why she feels that way and honestly, it feels a lot of pressure. Many elder siblings online also sided with her saying all of this is true and sometimes annoying and exhausting.
Us moment
— Trisha (@Sochtee_hai) April 19, 2023
No matter who is fighting with whom in the house, you have to stay strong and get both of them a glass of water to drink and listen to both the sides and calm them down.
— Shubhangi🌻 (@prism_dimension) April 19, 2023
Being an elder more like a responsibility than being blessing & here We have to understand everyone without getting understood by anyone 😇
— Accidental_Engineer (@Accidntl_Enginr) April 19, 2023
Yaar so true. And big Us
— Shivani (@shivani_yaar) April 19, 2023
Elder siblings are actually the pillar for all the younger ones..can relate cos m the youngest n whnevr i face any issue or anything i can go n tell them n having elder sibling is actually blessing..they scolds a lot sometimes actually most of the time😭 bt they do care alot ♡
— Shagun (@shagun_yaar) April 18, 2023
I did not want to feel so attacked early in the morning
— Nirupama Singh (@nitropumaa) April 19, 2023
and being this shield for protecting younger siblings so they don’t go through the same shit u did
(just for them to say “aapne kuch nahi Kiya hai”)— Bhavana D (@bhavanadesiraju) April 19, 2023
Thats a lotta pressure for one person u need to rale care of yourself first and then only can u hwlp others,also there shld b a balance and u too shld vent whe. Needed
— Comentator (@Comentatorbol) April 19, 2023
I’m the youngest, but the only girl child. It is a very difficult role to take up. Taking responsibility for other people’s happiness, being jovial, and serious at the same time, keeping an upbeat environment at home all the time every day is so draining! There are no off days!
— Jabin Sadique (@jjabi) April 21, 2023
I am also the eldest son…..but i do nothing…my younger sister do everything…🙄🙄🙄
— ࿗ ستیم (@satyam_helps) April 19, 2023
Even in your down moments, you still have to keep up with everyone and maintain like everything is alright
— Sharry Confectioneries (@sharryConfect) April 19, 2023
Not the elder one, yet I can relate.
— Shambhavi Gupta (@Shambhavi130) April 19, 2023
Does this also happen with elder sons or it’s just the daughters who have to go through it all?