There is too much pressure on working women to further their careers as well as look after the household. People think that just because she is a woman, the onus is on her to take care of the family’s needs. And if she works in a competitive field which requires her to work long hours, her family will try to convince her to take up a job that is less demanding.
Similarly, a female software engineer took to Reddit under the subreddit r/developersIndia to reveal that her family is asking her to find a government job because her work is too hectic. She spends 10-12 hours in front of the screen and later studies to upskill herself.
“Lately, my family is seeing that my work has gone too hectic. I am glued to my screen for 10-12 hours. After that, I study for 3-4 hours because I want to upskill myself. My family every now and then talks about why I should prepare for govt job like UPSC or bank because it will be less hectic,” she wrote.
She further claimed that her family worries that as a woman, she will find it difficult to take care of the family and pursue her career after she is married.
“Their reasoning is that after marriage, as a woman, I won’t be able to follow this hectic schedule along with family. Also, they talk about job security which is there in govt jobs. I want to be a software engineer, this is for sure.”
Have a look at her full post here:
Several people, many of them fellow software developers, took to the comments section to shower her with advice. Here’s what they suggested:
After marriage, hire house helps and cooks who will take care of all the household chores like laundry, cleaning the dishes, etc.
Moving to a company at a better position that doesn’t demand long hours as her current job.
Civil services jobs are no less hectic. In fact, it is quite the opposite.
Having a thoughtful and kind partner who is willing to share the responsibilities is half the battle won.
Marrying into a household which won’t treat you as a maid.
At the end of it all, one needs a supportive family.
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