A lot of times we find ourselves to be bound by society’s timeline of eventually getting married and having kids, but some Indian women previously revealed how others react when they choose not to have kids and break the norm.
And the discussion opened yet again on Twitter when women honestly discussed the reasons why they don’t wish to have kids. It started when a Twitter user stated that “being selfish” is a valid reason for not having a baby as women don’t owe it to anyone to reproduce. She added that she feared that she would be a bad mother anyway and hence would choose not to:
the thing is, "i'm too selfish to have a baby" is a totally valid reason to not have a baby. women do not actually owe the world babies.
— and my haters can quote me on that (@lyta_gold) May 5, 2021
i am literally too selfish to have a baby, i would probably be a bad mother. of course, if i were a man, nobody would care that i didn’t want to have children, but i’m a woman so i need an excuse more compelling than “i don’t want to and don’t think i would be good at it”
— and my haters can quote me on that (@lyta_gold) May 5, 2021
Many other women joined in sharing their very real fears when it comes to motherhood and pregnancy:
To me, “I would probably be a bad mother” is a very unselfish reason to not have a child. You’re putting the emotional and mental health of a probable child into consideration.
— Runihara Gaming 🐯 (@runiharagaming) May 6, 2021
As Liz Gilbert once said, there are women who are born to be mothers, the Auntie Brigade, and women who should not be within 10 feet of a child, and it is very important that you know which category you fall into.
Good for you for doing what’s right for you.— Republicans are doing active harm to the country. (@beth4158) May 6, 2021
Every reason not to have a baby is a valid reason. It requires a lot of work, money, and sacrifice to care for a baby, far more than anyone realizes before making the decision to have a baby, knowing that it’s going to take a lot. It’s not something anyone should do lightly.
— soup (@powerchowder69) May 5, 2021
I never understood that argument, calling people (esp women) “selfish” for not wanting kids? If anything it’s the least selfish thing you can do, to recognize that you just aren’t cut out for parenthood and not bring a kid into to world for no reason?
— goddess of procrastination (@crownxxjules) May 5, 2021
I do want kids but I dont want to be pregnant. It sounds miserable. I’m gonna foster/adopt cus there’s already so many kids that need a home!! U think I’m tryna double my carbon footprint just so my baby looks like me??? NOPE. hottest of hot takes but giving birth is selfish.
— hana🐰🥀 (@swampymama) May 5, 2021
Not just “being a bad mom”, even those who can be good moms might not want kids:
"I don't wanna" at any point in the whole process is a DQ in my book. Honestly, I think if you can't go into it 110% then you probably shouldn't.
— TessM (@Tess__M) May 6, 2021
Some also touched upon how men are treated differently when they decide not to have kids, but women aren’t afforded the same choice:
yep they let my partner get the snip at 22, no questions asked. meanwhile im 25 and they wont let me get my tubes tied and everytime i bring it up i get told im not old enough to know what i want lmao
— angry bisexual EMT (@neuronEMT) May 6, 2021
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