Societal norms often perpetuate a double standard where women’s morality is scrutinized and elevated while men escape similar scrutiny. There is a blatant imbalance when it comes to how we perceive men and women and it casts women as guardians of virtue and men as exempt from moral scrutiny. Here’s an example.
A certain kind of fest was going on in Symbiosis College of Arts and Commerce, Pune, where a male and a female student were seen dancing on stage. It was a contemporary dance routine to a romantic song and naturally, there were certain dance steps which were intimate going with the theme of the full routine.
However, some people thought it was appropriate to shame the woman for dancing on stage romantically because she was someone’s “future wife”.
Someone's future wife 😂😂 pic.twitter.com/Df9dwIyfSD
— Kavya 🥀💌 (@Kavvyia) February 1, 2024
Can the guy in the video also not be somebody’s future husband? Or is he devoid of a moral compass and morality only comes into question when a woman is involved? Is the woman dancing alone here? And above it all, the two are only dancing!
People online called the post out for trying to bring the woman down for harmlessly performing on stage. They highlighted that the woman in question is confident, elegant and talented, and if there is a man who has a problem with her dance, he doesn’t deserve to be with her in the first place.
Here’s a look at some of the reactions to the video:
I don’t get this bro. If it’s wrong, it’s wrong for both of them.
Why do we always single out the girl and insult her in videos like these?
In fact, Why should we insult/police anyone? If u don’t like the dance, don’t freaking watch it.
People like u hold the country back.
— Priyank Gupta (@PriyankGupta03) February 2, 2024
That’s a beautiful performance for such stage, I am surprised to see you’re a girl who’s posting with this caption, I see nothing wrong here except good performance.
Or may be, captions like these gets more engagement?
— Nishant Bhardwaj (@Nishant_Bliss) February 1, 2024
She is going to be a beautiful wife who is confident about herself, elegant with her body, and has no stage fear. Most importantly, she is good at knowing what she likes and achieves it unapologetically, a trait she can impart to her kids easily. https://t.co/9xzl5MBcce
— ऋ (@Curie_chirrups) February 2, 2024
This kind of woman-shaming needs to stop. The guy is also someone’s future husband! 🤷♂️ the men who watch porn (some of them being questionable content) everyday is also someone’s future husband! Women aren’t and need not be torchbearers of ‘morality’, nor do men! The girl clearly… https://t.co/2b0smt4n0R
— Sanjeev (@geniusparadox) February 2, 2024
Give a free pass to men and your husband may likely cheat on you in future.
This habit of excusing men for being promiscuous instead of shaming them is one of the reasons many families fall apart. You can't have intercourse just by yourself, it takes two. https://t.co/jkpQyfbCDw
— ꯃꯥꯀꯨ (@porbotialora) February 3, 2024
Two people showcasing a freestyle -contemporary dance form which requires that kind of chemistry & synchronisation. Else it would look like a clown show. I'm saying this as a dancer myself. What's with "someone's future H/W ?"
People like Kavya will write absolute BS for reach.🤡 https://t.co/0hVa7unW98— Harshitha (@gharshitha_) February 2, 2024
Why not, "someone's future husband" ?
There's absolutely nothing wrong in this video!
Why the hell is it so easy to bash a woman's dignity?All this coming from a girl herself, makes it even more pathetic! https://t.co/VsaHwaAgLr
— VAISHNAWI (@Vaishnawii_) February 3, 2024
Seeing one women pulling down other women is such an ugly site
A similar thing happened in our college during the gathering it helped me identify how many of these so called “young doctors” have a sick mentality where you end up sexualising every thing
Even art for that matter https://t.co/ZeDrS0JSad— Aryan Mehta (@aapkamehta23) February 2, 2024
Someone’s future husband, too!!!!!
— isHaHaHa (@hajarkagalwa) February 2, 2024
If we were to establish gender equality in the true sense in our society, we need to challenge these stereotypes and double standards, and judge individuals based on their questionable actions rather than conforming to rigid gender norms, don’t you agree?