So many couples are trapped in unhappy marriages for the sake of their children and their families. Especially women, who have been conditioned to believe that their primary responsibility is the happiness of their family that they end up sticking through even abusive marriages.
One woman took to Twitter to share her thoughts on divorce. She claimed that it is wrong for the kids to see their parents getting divorced and that couples should stick it out for the sake of their children.
Thoughts on divorce : No matter how right it is for the parents, it is always wrong for the kids.
Our seniors had it right. "Staying together for the sake of the kids" is really something. Once children come into the picture, gotta put family first.— Kasturi Shankar (@KasthuriShankar) January 18, 2022
There were people who thought alike and suggested that divorce is “selfish”.
So true.
If we control a bit our selfishness we can help make things better for the next generation, for the society, for the Dharma, for the country.But it is very difficult to make the disrupters to understand it. https://t.co/CbZ7bQuJT1
— M. Nageswara Rao IPS(R) (@MNageswarRaoIPS) January 19, 2022
However, people who have actually lived with parents who were unhappy in their marriage shared their ordeal.
Say this infront of a kid who has grown up waking up to quarrels, abuses, breaking of things and they will tell what would have rather been healthy for them and their family? Don't force a child into a life where you can't give them peace. Don't damage their psyche forever. https://t.co/h8nH0cSl4Q
— 🌻 (@rhymesandproses) January 19, 2022
Many claimed that they grew up with emotional issues after watching their parents fight frequently.
my parents stayed together for the sake of us kids. all of us have ptsd from their fights and wish they’d gotten divorced instead. living in a house of two married people who resent each other is mentally and emotionally draining only. https://t.co/kj08hd1iey
— ananya business. (@ehnanyuh) January 18, 2022
the amount of kids that were psychologically damaged by having to live with parents who don't love each other but are doing it for the kids are too many for yall to still be pushing this… children can sense when something is wrong and yall only giving them psychological issues https://t.co/kMXU7NFZCq
— Tayoncé Defense Attorney (@lesbeyonsay) January 18, 2022
Some expressed that it is psychologically damaging and traumatising to see their parents suffer.
My parents had an extremely problematic marriage – which lasted till my mother died
Was extremely traumatizing to see her suffer, with no support
I still think she+we could have had a great life if divorced
This attitude is the reason why she didn't, I regret my childhood https://t.co/hXApj5Bb5z
— Nikhil Rampal (@NikhilRampal1) January 18, 2022
Parents being forced to stay together for their children is going to strain them and you think the children won't notice? You want children to grow up in an environment where the parents don't like each other and in some cases hate each other to always fight? That's good? https://t.co/JoZ6JqG3WO
— rach⁷ (@trivialove23) January 18, 2022
2 years my parents were separated are the only two years of my life where my mother has been an adorable, lovable, and responsible mother. I have not been hit a singular time in those two years and even my teachers confirmed that I was improving academically and socially. https://t.co/lD0Qi0S3Pq
— Shivangi 🏳️🌈 (@sheevaangii) January 18, 2022
stop using children as an excuse and guilt tripping parents .. i bet you children would rather live peacefully with a single parent than live through the fights of their parents everyday https://t.co/dENKYzD1qx
— k🧣(taylor’s version) (@swiftsdorothea) January 18, 2022
my parents forced themselves to live with each other for 30 years. it was a traumatic experience not just for them but for me and my sisters. we grew up in a unhappy home and carry that weight on our shoulders till today. dont force this mentality, its detrimental to society https://t.co/S2mzhk4UW7
— ⛓ mallu papi ⛓ (@shyxmm) January 18, 2022
No. You gotta stop glorifying unhappy marriage. If two people are unhappy, then kids who grew up witnessing the unhappiness will be messed up too. The kids will surely understand when they grew older on why their parents decided to mutually seperate instead of staying in 🙂 https://t.co/Vek3I5sNzb
— Suthiiii (@harshuthee) January 18, 2022
Instead of living together in an unhappy marriage and family, isn’t it better to stay happily separate?
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