Ranbir Kapoor’s statements about marriage and his wife Alia Bhatt have caused more stir on the internet than the Paris Olympics. Every time Ranbir sits for an interview or a podcast and starts talking about his marriage, you can rest assured that he will be grabbing innumerable headlines the next day, and not for good reasons.
Previously, Ranbir Kapoor was criticized for talking about Alia Bhatt’s bathroom habits publicly, joking about her pregnancy bump and calling her “loud” and “vivacious”. This time around, he is being criticized for something similar but a lot of people have come to his support as well because, to them, he makes sense.
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In a podcast with Zerodha founder Nikhil Kamath, Ranbir spoke about his marriage with Alia and how she has changed certain aspects of her personality for their relationship to work. He said that previously Alia was very loud and now she has dialed down a lot. He explained that in order for any relationship to work out, both people need to make certain compromises and sacrifices.
“Especially when you’re in a marriage, you have to let go of your personality. She’s also letting go of her personality. We’re adjusting to each other trying to make it liveable for each other. Any marriage is doing that. You have to let go, you have to adjust, you have to sacrifice facets of it. Because it’s impossible for two people to like each other the way they are,” he said.
What Ranbir was trying to say was that loud tones make him uncomfortable, because of his experience dealing with his father, Rishi Kapoor’s loud tone. Probably Alia’s loud voice worked as a trigger for him and she noticed it, which is why she decided to change that part of herself for him. Ranbir also went on to highlight how Alia has made more changes than he has.
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However, his statement about Alia letting go of her personality irked many people online who tried to argue that if for a marriage to work, one has to let go of their personality, then that marriage is not a healthy one.
Alia was so bubbly fun when ranbir was not in her life! She was real and a breath of fresh air then he came, it was almost as if Alia had to tone down her fun side and act all mature. Your man shouldn’t have to change you but should accept you for who you are!
— Alina 🌸 (@AlinaKapoor_) July 27, 2024
This sounds so wrong. Letting go of one’s personality is not at all possible. You cannot be with someone who doesn’t allow you to be yourself. Adjustment and acceptance go hand in hand.
— Surbhi (@vijaysurbhi_2) July 27, 2024
He is saying that he does not really like Alia and she is letting go of her personality to become likeable to him🥲
— ForestSpirit (@bluelephant5) July 27, 2024
If u change your personality then u r not yourself anymore
Habits should be changed but personality ! keeps u unique from the crowd ..— S✧ (@shhmyway) July 27, 2024
And we all know that alia’s the only one letting go off anything while he remains a man-child. He needs to shut his trap. https://t.co/8E8CHDLhwI
— kezia (@zjmexquisites) July 27, 2024
why would u want someone to change their personality just for u to “adapt” into the marriage? might as well u marry someone whose personality matches your expectations??? what the fuck did i just read 😂 https://t.co/Rg9LQ7zVK3
— ⛓ mallu 💀 papi ⛓ (@shyxmm) July 27, 2024
Rather people should be with those people whom you can accept in their most raw and natural state, changing for someone else creates resentment in the long run. https://t.co/kQDd6Vag7b
— Laveena Hemnani (@Laveena_H) July 28, 2024
so many women out there k!llong the woman they actually are for the sake of their marriage/ relationship is insane https://t.co/aEBOK4dIP1
— shruti (@_shhruutii) July 27, 2024
On the other hand, many supported Ranbir and said that for a marriage to work, a lot of compromises must be made and both parties must meet at a common ground. Some even gave examples from their own lives. Have a look:
My father is short tempered but because my mom is extremely sensitive,he is always calm and cool around her. Likewise,my mom has social anxiety yet she attends every single party with papa because she knows he doesnt like going alone. This is how marriage works dude
— Emaan Fatima (@AishaBilal36117) July 28, 2024
letting go of personality in a good way where the other person is bringing the best out of u& healing you in a way u became more calm, fearless, confident, mature etc my bf has also changed me in a way where i worked on my anger issues & i a quite person now,what is the problem?
— Rits (@gangstaw1fey) July 27, 2024
these people think only on one side, he meant that both need to adjust in marriage and the people who are against this should look at their own parents who might have adjusted in many things, don’t be a hatemonger in finding everything wrong especially when it’s Ranbir
— 𝙑 ♪ (@RKs_Tilllast) July 27, 2024
I think what he meant here is people adjust their behaviours (unlearn, relearn, let go of certain habits) inorder to make the relationship compatible. So “personality” here I think summarizes the before.
— mahek (@maahhhek) July 27, 2024
GOSH!! Y’all are literally putting words into his mouth ffs..
He did not say anything like that at all..gosh sm is so vile. https://t.co/ChyR9n7UnL pic.twitter.com/uVPRhfZDqj— Shalini (@KYAHOTUM) July 27, 2024
On contra, IRL, it works like this! What RK said is the truth, not ideals, but compromise makes a marriage work! It could be either of them or both of them adjusting/compromising for each other but nothing works like letting go of quarrels and disagreements… https://t.co/MxKGYhI18x
— Pika (@Vegchowmein) July 27, 2024
You are misquoting what he said is in a marraige you have to let go of your personality meaning ” both have to make compromises and adjustments because its impossible to have same temperaments and living style . https://t.co/bZ5alk2Lf6
— Dua 🇵🇸 ᵐᵘˢᵉ⑅ (@alufied) July 27, 2024
Do you agree with what Ranbir has to say?