The murder of a 27-year-old woman, who is the daughter of a Pakistani diplomat, has been dominating headlines. According to Times Now, the girl was murdered over a breakup with the accused, Zahir Jaffar. She went to Jaffar’s house after which she was allegedly shot and murdered by him. Jaffar is said to have been a drug addict.
This case has started a wide debate on social media regarding parents allowing their kids for night outs and monitoring their actions. A journalist named Mubashir Zaidi took to Twitter to ask parents not to allow their kids, irrespective of their age, to spend the night at someone else’s house.
I beg all parents to not allow their children to spent a night at someone else's place. There are countless predators outthere
— Mubashir Zaidi (@Xadeejournalist) July 21, 2021
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Several people online refuted her opinion. Many said that instead of denying their kids freedom to go outside at night or spend a night out at a friend’s place, society should be vigilant of predators.
Mubashir Sb, a 27 year old should never have to ask permission to stay out. Our cities should be safe for women regardless of where they are.
— Zebunnisa Burki (@zburki) July 21, 2021
This attitude just exacerbates the issue. She was a 27 year old woman, not a child. Unmarried women are not children in need of supervision. Perhaps the men need the supervision
— Amna Khan (@amnaukhan) July 21, 2021
So you are teaching parents to take their kids as SLAVES!
— SorathSindhu (@SindhuSorath) July 21, 2021
Wrong approach. A society cannot live in fear. If we accept this approach, the predators have already won. You are saying, do not buy groceries because if they are consumed it will lead to weight gain. The right approach is to buy the right foods, consume with conscious control.
— z (@bus_kerdou) July 21, 2021
They added that parents should instead monitor their kids for toxic and potentially abusive behavior, speak to them, and prevent them from causing harm.
I understand that you’re saying this as a concerned parent, but, honestly, it is worth stressing that the onus is purely on the murderer and the society that nurtured him. That is where the focus should be.
— Shahrukh Wani (@ShahrukhWani) July 21, 2021
True but the real plea should be for parents to ensure their kids are not on drugs and watch their violent behaviour
— Ayesha Siddiqa (@iamthedrifter) July 21, 2021
Adult women should not have to ask anyone’s permission. I understand this is coming from a good place, but we don’t need more family policing; we need the protection of our state & support of our communities.
— Nida Kirmani (@NidaKirmani) July 21, 2021
And parents need to talk to their children
simply refusing for night stay might create gap
talk to them and convince them to stay home
— Muhammad Faheem (@MeFaheem) July 21, 2021
How about “I beg all parents to not raise misogynistic murderers and to hold their sons accountable instead of trying to bribe their way out of justice”.
— Durr e Sameen Mirza (@DsMirza) July 21, 2021
Women have already been living like this. Bachpan se we are taught not to go out at night, no sleepovers etc..it doesn’t solve anything. It’s time to accept that men are the problem and have always been.
— 𝐳𝐞𝐞𝐞𝐞 (@zeynabbxo) July 21, 2021
Beg Parents to spend time with your childrens, make them as comfortable as they can easily share everything with you.
— Sohail Ahmad (@suhailA290) July 21, 2021
Sir with all due respect, this is a really bad way to approach the issue: a. discounts the fact that most abuse happens within the home and b. women’s mobility and control over their bodies is bad enough already!
— shmyla (@apniISPdot) July 21, 2021
Some also expressed how this was a good idea and thanked their parents for not allowing them for night outs, ensuring their safety.
Very true and very wise advice ۔۔۔I couldn’t understand why my father never allowed us to spend nights ever ،even with our best friends ۔۔۔I completely understand now that I know better ۔so grateful for his wisdom and care
— Abida (@Abida27465043) July 21, 2021
Never ever leave your child unattended with anyone, may it b cousin, servant, uncle or colleague,tutor,molvi/Qari sahib, NEVER.
Always ensure one of the parent is with the child until he/she is 16 years old.Friends of your children should never b more than 2 years older than them
— Jazbonite (@Jazbonite3) July 21, 2021
Spot on, not sure what is the disagreement here? It’s not about man or women, psychopath could do this to a men. Not allowing children to spend a night is precautionary paractise, if you allow it is highly personal then, how can state or any awareness would prevent such incidents
— Waqar Tariq (@waqartariq2k2) July 22, 2021
That’s my rule with my children also I let them go to their friends house only after I met their parents and I give them my guidelines of their responsibility and my deal with children is I can pick you no matter how late it gets but no sleep over at all period
— Shag (@ShaguftaAfzal7) July 21, 2021
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