8 Reasons Some Of Us Don’t Want To Be Mothers And I Think It’s Okay

Okay, before everyone in the comments shreds my personal life to bits, analyses every strand and comes to the conclusion that I’m spreading anti-national values, let me tell you, this is not generic. I have a lot of friends who like the idea of a family, I just don’t happen to be one of them and I’m not alone.

Here’s why I think some of us prefer to side step motherhood all together.

1. We don’t go gooey at the sight of kids, we can never have a conversation with them and we hate them a little bit.

We’re the people who complain about crying kids on an airplane.

 

2. We think our kids will grow up with too many issues, abandonment being one.

And the counsellor fee will really skyrocket.

 

3. We won’t be able to drop everything and leave at short notice, we’ll have someone else to think about.

We can’t go backpacking to Bhutan or fly to Europe, we’d have to think about school timetables.

 

4. With the kind of salary we earn, we’ll never be able to provide our kids with the lifestyle our parents raised us with.

I can barely afford myself in my paycheck, much less another human being.

 

5. Now every decision and every life choice, involves another person, another life.

When I’m unsure of my life plans, how can I get a child into all this uncertainty?

 

6. Do we really want to raise new lives in a world where bombs go off at the drop of a hat, where global warming has got us all worried and where ‘humanity’ is just a word in the dictionary? No.

It’s not a nice enough world to reproduce.

 

7. We believe that we simply don’t have what it takes to be a mother.

There is no amount of motherhood or motherly instincts in us, not even a drop.

 

8. We’ve seen the worst of parenting relationships around us and we don’t want that for any kid.

And it’s made a lasting enough impression that we wouldn’t wish such calamity on someone else.

Also because, we dont really need a reason, it’s a choice and I choose to not be surrounded by kids!

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