6 Signs Of People Who Have Loved So Hard They Never really Moved On

There are two people who share their deepest secrets, promise each other everything and then, part ways as if it was just another deal. They can even spot each other at gatherings, public places, exchange cordial pleasantries, jive on and the later calmly tell their friends how they had a scene with them.

They’re the people who have moved on – they don’t get lost in pensive wanderings of the mind during busy weekdays at work, they don’t feel the hollow vacuum trying inside the rib cage that’s trying to suck the meaning out of everything – their eyes still have the shine, their shirts ironed, shoes shining and hearts pumping with the excitement of being gratified again, over and over. They’re alright BUT, it’s not them we’re going to talk about.

It’s the rest, just a handful, who feel everything mentioned above and can’t do much about it – let’s consider them.

1. Because for some, it’s not all about the bigger better deal

It can’t be analogized to losing a job and landing a better package – no, for them it something far away from the materialistic approach. Nothing else compares to the dreams once shared, the familiarity, the time, the essence and it was never something replaceable. It was something they never owned but were promised it was theirs in a world where nothing lasts forever.

A gullible heart, a sensitive soul couldn’t help but fall for the promise. Does it mean they’d never be promised again by someone else? No, of course not but it was not about filling the void with whatever comes their way. Every puzzle has a block that fits perfectly – you lose that block and you just have to play with that one hole in the picture.

 

2. Because for some a closure isn’t worth peanuts

What good could a closure do when their heart is doomed to shatter. Everything that’s going to be discussed in that ultimate rendezvous is already known – just not said. They believe there’s nothing you could say that they don’t already know.

They knew about their vices, their shortcomings, their mental blockages – they knew about the impracticality, about the others involved and also the fact that you had one foot out of the door since a long time now. They were working on things or, at least, that’s what they’d like to believe and your sugar-coated way of putting it that their efforts aren’t enough anymore just leaves them bitter and resentful.

 

3. Because for some, the wait becomes the sweetest addiction

It cuts like a knife in the beginning and never really ceases to feel that way, at least in every solitary moment, now and then. However, they almost start enjoying the razor’s edge – as if a subtle masochism passively protests the untimely death of innocence. They wait for a day when the tables turn – not with a vengeance in heart, no, but with a throbbing fondness they wait, like a stone.

They wait where they were left with moss and rust gathering all over – they don’t clean up lest your traces are lost forever. They wait in silence, in the dark, on the couch they sit, the one where you two played all afternoon, touching each other’s fingertips.

 

4. Because for some, the risk-free love doesn’t make any sense

Some people just can’t wrap their brains round the idea of making arrangements to fall in love. Call them old school or plain dramatic but they perceive it in its profundity – something deeper that embraces the hurt because real love wasn’t meant to be swiped left or right after ticking off the points. Impractical, emotional fools as they are, they never could really think that love is all about convenience.

To them, love is the most tenacious of adventures and to give up is to distort love for them. They want to endure the pain and so they shall, with or without you now because they can’t help but face the consequences of a risk that they didn’t know was supposed to be calculated.

 

5. Because some people can’t let go of the meaning life had once

Heartbreaks, for the sensitive lot comes with some unfathomable, an existential crisis. With love, they experience life not just from the standpoint of their own individual identities but through a process of negation, a difference of two individuals. A random encounter with a person snowballs into a paradigm shift in philosophy, a feeling that appears to have universal value. When it all goes, they can’t get over the sense of an inherent futility that they now reckon as the essence of existence.

When, for a brief moment, life showed them some meaning, something more than earning money, affording a lifestyle, being popular, they ran towards it, like adolescents reacting to the first rush of adult hormones. Now, they will not go back to be deceived for they know what awaits in the end – they’re happy hovering over that brief shine of light they once had shinning on their forehead.

 

6. Because some just find solace in breaking every norm

When scorned in love, they tend to lose regard of the society. The nakedness of the society with all its hypocrisies, dubiousness, double standards appear to prominent to their eyes. Therefore, they break every norm that society throws at their faces. Not that by doing this they feel holier than thou but it is a strange satisfaction of being the non-conformist that drives them.

They refuse to move on and find a partner for companionship, security, convenience and most importantly, social relevance.

The idea of social coupling, dating scenes, hook ups amuses them and not in a good way. They live by their own, with happiness never being in priority list because they don’t buy the made up standards of happiness anymore. They see the world as it is, observe like horizons like beasts in the wild and if and when they’re tired of the charade, they end their lives at times – no questions asked.

It’s better to dismiss them as stuck up fools because we can’t convince them to join us in our intoxicated gyrations.

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