School Said Her Tall Daughter Was Violating The Dress Code. This Mom’s Next Move Was Savage!

Summers are here and so is the dress code at schools. Well, not in our country, but abroad. We have school uniforms, duh! While some of the school kids have no patented uniforms in other parts of the world, they sure have dress codes. Failing to follow which, they are detained or there’s some other sort of punishment.

Amid all these rules, here’s a mom whose daughter has been already given two strikes for not following the code of dressing at school. You may ask, why? Then, it’s not because of indecent dressing, but because the kid’s tall for her age. She’s 13 years old and 5′ 7” tall.

Mom, Catherine Pearlman, who is also a social worker took to Instagram, a while ago, to share her’s and her daughter’s plight.

My girl was dress coded two days in a row. It’s impossible to find shorts that are remotely fashionable and below her finger tips. She’s tall with long arms and fingers. One more code and she will have detention. And making the policy even more frustrating is that there isn’t a dress code for high school.


But, that’s not where it ends. She then wrote a supremely savage letter (published on Today‘s Parenting Team Section) to her daughter’s Principal, asking him to take her shopping while keeping in mind the key pointers and school’s dress code. And, it is all sorts of savage. I, make this up… NOT.

Dear Middle School Principal:

Thank you for sending a note home for the second day in a row to say my daughter was dressed inappropriately for school. I’d like to offer an additional thank you for forcing her to change into large mesh shorts that have been worn by only god knows who and potentially never washed.

To reward you for treating my daughter with such concern, I am cordially inviting you to take my daughter shopping.

Here are the specifications you have to work with. I wish you loads of luck.

She is 5’7” and 13 years old. Built more like her father, she has exceptionally long legs and arms.

She doesn’t like anything pink or purple or frilly.

She won’t wear pants because she gets overheated easily. Trust me I’ve seen this. It will cause a scene in the schoolyard.

She absolutely will not wear a dress either.

No item of clothing can have a logo visible because to her that’s not cool. She will however, wear any type of superhero, Green Day or USFL T-shirt if you can find them. You might be able to try for an occasional Beatles reference but that’s touch and go.

Now, don’t forget that you will have to find something in the stores that also meets with your dress code requirements. Here are the tricky areas that are most difficult to avoid. As per your policy, she cannot wear tank tops. Shorts and skirts must not extend to the end of the fingertips (This is a toughie.)

So, if I were you (and I’m glad I’m not) I’d focus on the shorts first. She has very long fingers which seems to make finding shorts that won’t get her sent to the principal’s office impossible (On the bright side the piano teacher says those fingers are an asset.). I’d schedule a few afternoons and weekends for this endeavor. I can tell you from experience that just heading to the mall, Target and the outlets won’t cut it. Not much for her there. I’ve already checked.

One last point: please try to stay within a reasonable budget. We can’t spend a fortune on her wardrobe. She is still growing after all.

I thank you endlessly for taking on this chore. What a relief for me.


Sick Of The Dress Code Mom

P.S. I forgot to thank you for making it clear to my daughter that her body is somehow a distraction, either to herself or to the boys. I thought she might have missed the message earlier in the year when the gym teacher told her she couldn’t wear yoga pants because the boys aren’t able to control themselves. I appreciate how hard you are working to drive the point home.


What did I tell you? Ain’t she savage AF? Just like that Mom who dropped the mic on the school authorities and the boy who snapped open her daughter’s bra.

All hail, Mom! *echoes*

H/T: Today, 22 Words

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