Love is not a game for the faint-hearted. But you know what is more challenging? Braving a breakup and being an adult about it. I mean we’ve all had our share of heartbreaks but the day you realise you’re too big for blame games, is the day you truly move on. And isn’t that the entire test? To be able to move on with life?
While you might find people who fall off to the bitter end of the deal (break), there are still people who are leading us with examples to follow. Couples who took the highway and stayed partners for a greater good. Let me elucidate with a real-life example.
Meet, Jessica Singleton and her ex Jon Megason who are happily raising their son in a manner that gives out parenting goals. In fact, in a Facebook post that has now gone viral, Jessica has penned a powerful note for all the separated couples out there.
This is my ex. This right here is more valuable than gold. This is a man who doesn’t pay a dime through the state because when my son needs new clothes, I just call him. This is a man who buys a bundle of kids’ movies on Vudu so even I can enjoy them with my son in my own home. A man who drops off the $45 box of pull-ups at my front door so I don’t have to load him up and go to the store. One who takes his son in 10 min notice far often than he should because I have too much to get done or just need a nap. This is a man who listens to me cry because I’m stressed out.
This is a man who tells his son not to forget mommy’s boyfriend when he lists his favourite people off the top of his head…A man who rushes over because we got locked out of the house or spends his evening fixing something for us. This is a man who labelled the presents he bought his son from “mommy” because mommy couldn’t get him as many. A man who still watches my sister’s kids so our son can be with his cousins. One who accompanies me to meet strangers from Craigslist to ensure we are safe. This is the diaper-bag-wearing, chocolate-milk-making, selfless, protective, generous, accomplished FATHER to my son.
The amount of obstacles we’ve had to overcome to get to this point are tremendous. This was not easy, this was a choice. Stop giving excuses and come together for your children. I’m the most stubborn person that I know and forgiveness came easy to us for the sake of our son. And because of that, I see my son every single day. We always welcome each other’s presence. In case I haven’t told you lately, I’m grateful for you. Most importantly for the motivated individual you are and how you provide Pierson with a phenomenal role model despite the foundation you once had. I love the amount of love my son will always have from you.
Enlightening isn’t it?
If it makes any better, Jon shares Jessica’s sentiment of the mutual admiration they have for each other. He even posted a heartfelt post about her.
A team like this can never lose. Never ever! Thank you for teaching us all about parenting, you guys! Thank you for the wonderful example. Go, team!
You can read Jessica’s post here and Jon’s post here.
H/T: CosmopolitanÂ