I am 22 years old and yet sometimes feel that I haven’t learnt a lot from life. Like being adult was not scary enough, college got over and I got buried under the weight of living alone, managing finances, finding a house, and the idea that it’s just ME now. No one to look out for me, no one responsible for me; just me taking care of myself.
But, this alone time made me realise something very important. I am not going to change anything in my life unless I get this ‘inner voice’ to tell me to do it. For example, I have been planning to work out since years. But then one day, I saw this crease above my navel which was made because of my ‘muffin top’ and sitting at one place for over 9 hours. And that day, I got this voice shouting inside my head, “If you don’t start working out from tomorrow, be ready to say goodbye to all your fancy dresses.” That crease was like a red siren blaring over my head. And that’s it. I haven’t skipped a day since.
Sometimes, you need to ask yourself some questions expecting that groundbreaking answer which will persuade you to do things you’ll never do otherwise. Because, believe me, no one on this planet, but you can convince yourself to do something.
Therefore, I have listed 9 questions you need to ask yourself today. The answers, whatever they are, will definitely show you something, you needed to see.
1. If we didn’t work to earn money, what would I be doing?
What if all this happening around you wasn’t for a paycheck? It is difficult to think of the world like that, but just try to imagine. There would have been no pressure, no necessity; just the pleasure of enjoying something you do. What would you have done?
If your answer is radically different than your current profession, then it’s time to set some strings straight.
2. What would I say in my own eulogy?
What would you write? How would you describe your life to people? The things you considered ‘significant’ all your life, might not even be worth mentioning then. Think about this and then you might realise where you have been wasting your time all along.
3. Where do I see myself in 10 years?
If your answer is ‘married with kid/s’ then you have clicked on the wrong article. Ask yourself about your plans. What do you desire to accomplish by then? Are you halfway there? Are you on that path at all? If you look back at yourself ten years from now, what will you feel? Ashamed, disappointed or proud?
4. Do I receive more than I give, or give more than I receive?
Apply that to every aspect of your life. Relationships, social life, education… absolutely anything. Either of your answers will aptly tell you where you are going wrong, and what you are doing right.
5. What is the one thing I can do better than others?
By others, I don’t mean the entire world. Start small. Think about people around you. What makes you stand out? What is your identity? If you lose it eventually, what will be left of you? Then make further decisions in life, after keeping that fact in mind.
6. Whom do I want to be like?
Your role models and heroes say a lot about you. Ask yourself why do you admire them, or what qualities, in particular, make you like them. Can you say that you have similar qualities? If not, are you doing anything to inculcate those qualities in yourself?
7. What have I done for which I’ll be remembered after I am gone?
Even if you have made an impact on one single person, then you have done something worth being remembered for. Things you do for others might not seem very beneficial at the moment (and those are just negative thoughts to distract you), but they are the things that make you immortal in the minds of other people.
If all you can think about is people who would remember you for the shit you have done to them, then it’s time to turn over a new leaf.
8. Who are the ones who make me happy?
The people you hang out with, your friend circle, your work circle or any other group; do they make you happy? Do you think they hold you back? Do you think you will be better off without them? Do you think they genuinely feel happy after seeing you succeed? These answers might clear some misconceptions you have been carrying.
9. Do people miss me if I’m not present in a gathering?
Does it affect them at all? Or do they just become happy that you are not there? The kind of vibe you give out defines what kind of a person you are. And if you can’t keep yourself civil enough to be generally nice to people around you, then you have some serious thinking to do.
Each of these questions have life-changing answers. But, you are the decider. Are you going to listen to your inner voice this time?