We are not alien to the concept of arranged marriage in our society. We are well aware of the kind of criteria families have while searching for a bride or groom. When it comes to a groom, families want a guy with a high-paying job, a house, and a car. How he looks is secondary. But when it comes to a bride, a woman’s educational qualification or work profile is considered a bonus. What seems to be of utmost priority is her physical appearance, especially on matrimonial sites.
Many families do not approve of a woman who earns more than her husband, or is taller than him, or is more qualified than him. Families of women understand this and sometimes go to the extent of lying to fit the mould. Here’s an example.
A guy named Ayush took to Twitter to express how it’s silly that his father lies about his sister’s height on matrimonial sites, despite her having a high-paying job, a Master’s degree, and great career prospects.
The silliest thing I have ever seen in my life is that my Sister earns much more than the average man in India ever will, has a master's, and is well on the way to a PR in Germany, but my dad needs to lie about her height on matrimonial sites.
— ayush (@Ayushittingme) March 18, 2023
Kabhi kabhi lagta hai ki haha women ho kitna privilege milta hai, kabhi kabhi lagta hai ki indian men are the most entitled undeserving group of people on the planet
— ayush (@Ayushittingme) March 18, 2023
People online couldn’t help but highlight the irony of it all. Firstly, why does a man think it’s necessary to find a groom for his daughter who is well-educated and independent? This incident also shows how our society places more importance on physical appearance than a person’s abilities and accomplishments.
Also, the sillier thing is your dad is searching for a groom who makes more than her, so your sister’s income would be immaterial from the groom’s perspective. So if her income is not essential, her height and other attributes become important.
— Slow Flash (@allweneed69420) March 18, 2023
I never understand what’s the point of asking height like if I am shorter than men does me make bad partner? If he is tall does it make him good partner? Useless parameters specially for women height, weight and omg colour ki to baat na kare to acha hai.
— Supriya (@chubbycheek25) March 18, 2023
Irony is 😂 your sister earns much more than an average man still your father has to , find a match for her.
I’m sure she’s capable of that— Yadav (@Lahariya_Cut) March 18, 2023
It is sad to see that we still live in a space where we need to ”fix” ourselves or details about ourselves in a holy companionship like marriage too.. however there are wayy too many lies involved in arrange marriages (they are basically a gamble) so I kinda agree with your dad..
— Yashika💛 || 2️⃣ days to PARIZ🗼✨ (@YashikaChugh4) March 18, 2023
The harsh reality is that matrimonial sites focus on external appearance more than anything else, it’s like social media in some sense. showing off things that are unreal or way far from reality. My comment is not against any matrimonial site but against this unrealistic process
— Swati Sarangi (@SwatiSarangi10) March 18, 2023
Best of luck to your sis. She can ignore the matrimonial ads and forge a life for herself on her own terns. Not having to always wear flats or walk with a stoop to cater to an insecure man
— Quatrina (@QuatrinaHosain) March 18, 2023
He need not lie about his daughter to fit in. She is way ahead in her career and right person will accept her the way she is!
— chweety tweety ✨️ (@worldbestbawse) March 18, 2023
This is what happens when entire societies are involved in getting even one person married instead of people finding eachother on their own. Too many people involved means too much time wasted bc no one is ever good enough & not to mention the endless choices on the site!
— eyeroll (@pfftttx4) March 18, 2023
When is our society going to be accepting of a woman’s accomplishments rather than be threatened by it?