There has been a lot of debate about abortion, whether or not it is ethical, and whether the sentiments of the family/partner should be kept under consideration. In different parts of the world, there have been protests led by women demanding the rights for abortion. Often, the argument that comes from the other side is that they would be ‘killing a baby’ and hence, it’s a crime.
Having said that, one guy took to Twitter to narrate how his partner got an abortion which left him offended and heartbroken. He said that she didn’t consider his feelings and the reason she gave was that she “wasn’t ready”.
I didn’t realize how pro-life I truly was until someone aborted my baby without considering my thoughts and feelings.
The emotional pain and mourning I went through, was unlike anything else I’ve experienced.
The reasoning I got: “I’m not ready”.
— Brendon Leslie (@BrendonLeslie) June 3, 2021
He said that there was no “credible” reason to abort the child.
I would have given up everything to be a father to that child. I begged and pleaded. But, again, I was told I have no say. Despite there being ZERO credible reason to abort our child.
— Brendon Leslie (@BrendonLeslie) June 3, 2021
Everyone in the GOP needs to get tougher on this. Because of their weakness, I went through something I would never wish upon anyone.
— Brendon Leslie (@BrendonLeslie) June 3, 2021
He further added that abortion is used as a “scapegoat due to selfishness”.
I felt obligated to share my story. We never hear from men about this. Society has been conditioned into silencing us. How many other cases have happened like mine? Abortion has been abused and used as a scapegoat due to selfishness.
— Brendon Leslie (@BrendonLeslie) June 3, 2021
People online decided to school him on the matter. Firstly, it was pointed out that not being ready to have a child was a perfectly valid reason for a woman to get an abortion.
“I’m not ready” is a perfectly valid reason.
— 🏳️🌈 Sól, the Völva – They/Them (@SolVolva) June 9, 2021
Next, it was established that it is the woman who has to bear the child and the nine-months worth of pain, body changes, etc. that comes with it. Therefore, ultimately it should be the woman’s decision.
I get your dilemma buddy but at the end of the day it’s a female’s body and a female’s right to choose….
— RealDinoFerrari (@RealDinoFerrar1) June 4, 2021
Ultimately it’s up to the pregnant person whether they want to carry it out to term or not. If you don’t have the emotional maturity to handle that and wait til that person is ready to endure the pain and responsibility of having a child, then you aren’t ready either. pic.twitter.com/aqWa68YHwW
— Cam, Prince of Pasta Salad (@CamLight928) June 6, 2021
Some also suggested the guy to adopt a child or even partner with somebody who is willing to have a child.
If you want to be a father, might I suggest fostering and/or adoption? Or perhaps partnering with someone who is as eager to have kids as you are?
“I’m not ready to have kids” is actually a perfectly legitimate reason not to have them.
— Samwise (@Samwisechester) June 6, 2021
The number of times you use “I”, “my” or “mine”: 18.
The number of times you refer to your former partner’s needs, wants or wishes: 0.
Says it all, really.
She must be SO glad she’s not tied to you for life.
— Gemma Cafarella (she/her) 🏳️🌈 (@gemmacaf) June 7, 2021
I was 23 when my 32 week pregnancy went from perfect on a Tuesday to blood pouring down my legs two days later. No matter how much you wanted a baby you don’t get to relegate another person to carry. We risk our lives to do so and we have EVERY right to say no.
— Louise Voltairine de Cleyre (@louise_q10) June 5, 2021
Many pointed out that he was the one who was being selfish because he wasn’t taking his partner’s (the one who would be carrying the baby) feelings into consideration.
its not your baby. youre not carrying it or the burden that comes with it. go make a baby with some one that WANTS and CONSENTS to carrying your burden
— purple haired princess ruto (@trotsets) June 4, 2021
This whole tweet is “Me me me me me.” Why should your partner consider your “thoughts and feelings” when you clearly don’t consider hers, never mind the physical strain on her body?
You want to “be a father” so badly, YOU get pregnant. Or adopt. But nobody owes you a baby.
— Casey Lewis (@cynical_tutu) June 5, 2021
through. stop acting like that person owed you the child when they could have died or at the very least been in immense pain if they carried the baby to term.
— z ♡’s the vlog frogs and the bean team (@coacoacbeans) June 9, 2021
You wouldn’t be the one experiencing all of the challenges and pain that comes with carrying a life. But it’s so easy for you to say “I want this, I want that.” If they’re not ready then THEY AREN’T READY. So many kids hurt because they’re parents weren’t ready.
— Catalina🧸 (@trippy_kitty97) June 9, 2021
People have for long been conditioned to believe that ‘ghar ka bachcha sab ka bachcha hota hai’. In the process, we keep forgetting that a woman has the right to autonomy over her own body. Shouldn’t she be the one to decide?
What are your thoughts on this issue? Tell us.