Breaking up with a partner can be a really bad feeling that can’t be fully described in words. Breaking up with besties can be worse for some. But for a few others, getting excluded from their friends’ group completely can be the absolute worst.
When a Twitter user compared the grief of being excluded to a breakup, lots of people shared stories of how their so-called friends stopped talking to them or inviting them out. They also recalled how it made them feel.
fuck a breakup have you ever been the excluded friend
— ally (@wintqrsbarnes) May 27, 2021
Warning: Prepare yourself before reading further, it might open up some old wounds.
Happened to me in the first lockdown ,one of my friends didn’t like me and then he turnt everyone against me and they were being hateful and they all just stopped talking to me and then my whole 3 months of lockdown I was on my own, so that’s fun
— La Feinte (@NdombeleHotspur) May 28, 2021
The worst is when you are the excluded friend because your life isnt going right. You try so hard and you have nothing. So they punish you by excluding you or just getting together without letting you know. Like all your struggle hasn’t been enough of a punishment.
— Cataliyah – Dark Winged Seraph (@cataliyah24) May 29, 2021
Lmao, once my two best friends sat down together to tell me they didn’t want to be my friend anymore. Ironically I was the one who made us be friends cuz I introduced them.
— M.gby (@MGbyh) May 28, 2021
Yep. I had a friend group that hung out regularly and then suddenly didn’t. Come to find out they were still hanging out but no one was supposed to tell me, because one girl’s bf didn’t like me or saw me as a threat or something.
— Andrew Small ✡️ (he/him) (@llamswerdna) May 29, 2021
One of my friends is getting married later this year, and invited the friend group to dinner to ask everyone to be her bridesmaids, except me of course 🙃 I’ve never felt more excluded, like why invite ME In the first place! I cried first thing getting home lmao pic.twitter.com/28OgE6eE4t
— Joshua Cisneros (@ryan_iafs) May 29, 2021
I got used to it my mom would never let me go anywhere so they just stopped asking all together now that im a adult it stayed that way now I have a very very hard time making friends cause i always think ill get left out so I just gave up on making friends
— TasteMyFrench (@TasteMyFrench1) May 29, 2021
I had a group of friends that I used to hang out with all the time. Then I found out if I wasn’t the one calling they didn’t bother to do the same with me. Sometimes I miss them
— GianlucA (@Gianluca_quello) May 28, 2021
Have you ever been sitting with a large group of friends who are all talking and laughing. Then when you finally try to chime in they all just go silent and stare at you and when you’re done they just quietly look around at each other like “wtf”…
— monstertrainer89 (@monstertrainer8) May 28, 2021
don’t even give me flashbacks of that I was sitting a bench behind my two “besties” they were talking about something and laughing and I asked what are yall laughing at and they ignored me multiple times and then said stop bothering us….will never forget the hurt tbh
— Nid²⁸ is ave’s gf 🇵🇸 (@afterglowlou28) May 28, 2021
i remember when i was sitting at the lunch table with my friends and they were talking about the plans they made together and how they were all going to the movies later that day.. IN FRONT OF ME without ever asking me if i wanted to go
— jaz 🕯rina endgame🕯 (@jianshosie) May 28, 2021
One time I wasn’t invited to a party and then got FaceTimed from said party 😗 https://t.co/BADlwAkU5Q
— *Screams in Longhorn* (@cpuryear99) May 29, 2021
One time they all organised to go out somewhere and never invited me and then acted like I was in the wrong for being upset and told me I don’t need to go everywhere with them🙃 https://t.co/jdvgXvRy4z
— Niamh ⎊ 💥🥤 (@lionheartamelia) May 28, 2021
If this has happened to you, you can take comfort in the fact that you’re not alone. And of course, that they weren’t really your friends at all.