I grew up in a chilled out household with cool parents. I had the freedom to go out alone, be friends with whoever I wanted, study sincerely but also take out time to pursue my passions, and I could talk to my parents about almost everything. However, some of my friends had extremely strict parents and how they behaved was way different from how I did.
People online have been revealing how having very strict parents affected their lives and shape their personalities as adults.
People that were raised by extremely strict parents, how has that affected you as an adult?
— Andisiwe not andiswa (@Miss_Calita) September 20, 2021
From low self-esteem to the inability to express emotions, being able to lie very easily to not being able to stay out late, here’s what some people revealed:
Low self esteem
Afraid of girls
Can’t take huge risks
I hate going out
Shy as fuck
I hate crowded places
I don’t drink
I can’t ask
Painful part I can’t pretend to be someone else, they installed this software when I was young & I obeyed coz I was a good child. It hurts me now. pic.twitter.com/s5arQxFb1S— 🃏 (@Dominic27i) September 21, 2021
– constantly overthinking
– fear that I’m always being judged
– been trying to revive a broken relationship years cause I don’t think I can ever get better
– over explain
– I sit in my struggle, it’s so hard for me to ask for help.
– I overcompensate in hopes to be loved back— Dash❤️ (@sheprettypretty) September 24, 2021
– I can’t handle confrontation
– I don’t often express my emotions
– People pleaser
– I don’t enjoy staying out late
– I don’t have a lot of friends
– Constantly thinking I’m being judged
– Concerned about what people think of me— B. (@biancaaboni) September 21, 2021
I struggle with putting my foot down with certain situations,
I’m afraid to speak up if I don’t like something someone did
I try by all means to avoid conflict
It’s so hard for me to accept help
I hate being shouted at
I sometimes struggle to say no to people🤦🏽♀️— Chaiselounge🖤 (@mphopen02) September 21, 2021
Now that I’m grown, my mom suddenly wants me to open up and tell her about everything that’s going on in my life. (Boys and all) and shame I CANNOT. It’s too late
— GOLD 👑 (@UrQueenCharisma) September 21, 2021
Socially awkward. I keep a lot to my self. I still struggle to find my self. Relationships don’t last because of anxiety and self doubt. I suffer from a great deal of anxiety. It feels as though the scared little boy in me will never grow up. I’m a mess nje!! 💔💔
— Mr.Brown🇿🇦 (@MrBrown_81) September 22, 2021
-I am a really great liar
-Don’t open up easily
-Am a germophobe
-Am not very fond of being told what to do
-Had struggles making friends
-Am too humble and that makes people think they can take advantage of me
-I am not so emotional and that makes people think am not empathetic— ᵗᵃᵏᵒ (@TKondw) September 21, 2021
I find it hard to speak up for myself when People trample on me as a person.
I can fake being happy around you and if you don’t know me like that you’ll fall for it, works 90% of the time. I was never allowed to be sad or angry for too long looool that was another beating.— JustBeingHandsomeHangu🇿🇼 🇲🇼 (@reggiechives) September 21, 2021
I have a curfew – I don’t even live with my parents. When the sun sets and I’m still on these streets I panic and I need to rush home. 🙈
— Mmasago (@Ama_M93) September 21, 2021
I developed selective hearing especially when you shout or say something rude my mind is able to block negative things out and it’s like I never heard you and I never crack when I’m in that mode you can say the most hurtful things genuinely I won’t show nor have emotion…
— I am Kwanele Ndlovu (@IamMcboom) September 21, 2021
I never want to be around people for long hours because I was only taught that you leave the house when you’re going to school. So I my adult life I only go to work and come back. Being around people for too long exhausts me. I feel out of place.
— Nonto (@nonto_ngwenya) September 21, 2021
Isn’t it sad how extremely strict parenting can completely destroy a person’s self-worth and the ability to express themselves?