Break up is a bad, bad thing to happen to anyone. You would barely find a person who can claim that s/he has had a clean or happy (or both) break up. Post break up is the time when we need our friends most, because honestly, Indian parents have a tendency of finding happiness when their son or daughter becomes single (strange, I know!).
But what if you break up with your friend? Whom do you turn to then? Whom do you call at 2 a.m. when you’re desperately missing your ex and cry your heart out? Because friendship break up only happens when the friendship is really intense, and when it happens you lose that one person you always turned to in such situations!
You’ll probably identify with these 9 things that lead to friendship break up, but I sincerely hope that you do not!
1. Series of small misunderstandings
The things that affect friendships most are small things, and misunderstandings. Big problems can sometimes be solved by talking it out, but small problems get unnoticed and are not taken care of when needed. Instead, at some point, things just get completely out of hand and come out in the form of an outburst. And the friendship is never the same again!
2. One friend getting a significant other
This is a classic reason of friendship break up. Your friend gets a girlfriend or boyfriend and now doesn’t have time for you. Even if s/he manages to meet with you, s/he is either accompanied by her/his significant other or can’t wait for your ‘meeting’ to be over so that they can go be with their girlfriend/boyfriend. The friend takes the friendship too much for granted and you are simply not significant in her/his life anymore. What more is there left for the friendship then anyway!
3. Pangs of jealousy
A friend just got a new phone, or may be a significant other, or perhaps just scored better than the other in an exam. But instead of being happy for the friend, the other person is jealous, maybe even without his/her own knowledge! Needless to say, the appreciation that s/he had for the friendship will go down the drain eventually!
4. Involvement of a third person
Third wheels are dangerous sometimes. From turning your friend away from you to simply talking bad about you to them behind your back, these people often take it upon themselves to ruin a perfect friendship! So always trust your gut, not a random person.
5. Involvement of family members, specially parents
Our families have a habit of chronically disliking our friends. According to them, our friends are worse than nuclear radiation! Sometimes this problem becomes so severe that it leads to the friendship breaking off completely! *Been there seen that*
6. Moving away to another place
“Out of sight = out of mind”, people say. And though friends make promises to keep the friendship alive even if they move away, it barely happens. Life takes its toll, we meet new people, we fill our times with new routines, and the friend becomes ‘somebody that I used to know’, and the friendship, just a bundle of beautiful memories to cherish.
7. A big fight between two friends
A big fight, whatever the reason or the mode is, is often the cause of life long rifts between people who thought they were best friends for life. Even if both the guilty parties try to make it up, it becomes a torn thread kept together by making a knot.
8. A huge emotional avalanche
Remember Farhan’s dialogue from 3 idiots, when he said that the thing worse than failing is your friend coming first? It is true. Often you just can’t identify with your friend’s happiness or sadness, which is really unacceptable on your friend’s part. Result = fall out and eventual death of the friendship!
9. When two of your close friends break up
and the only option for you is to choose one between them or lose both, and you just don’t know what to do!
If only all friendships were like the one that Jay and Veeru shared!