We are shallow and by we, I mean, the human race (maybe not all, but the majority of us are, anyway). We like to define people based on their looks, colour, the way they speak, their physical appearance, basically, we like to judge on the face value. Something similar happened to this mother, Allison Kimmey.
When she asked her kids to come out of the pool as it was time to head home, her visibly upset daughter said something to Allison that took her by surprise. She said, “Mama is fat”. What Alison did next, to teach her kids the perfect lesson is GOLD and everyone must take a cue from her.
Read this viral post which has around 32k likes here.-
She was upset I made them get out of the pool and she told her brother that mama is fat.
I told her to meet me upstairs so we could chat.
Me: “what did you say about me?”
Her: “I said you were fat, mama, I’m sorry”
Me: “let’s talk about it. The truth is, I am not fat. No one IS fat. It’s not something you can BE. But I do HAVE fat. We ALL have fat. It protects our muscles and our bones and keeps our bodies going by providing us energy. Do you have fat?”
Her: “yes! I have some here on my tummy”
Me: “that’s right! So do I and so does your brother!”
Her brother: “I don’t have any fat, I’m the skinniest, I just have muscles”
Me: “Actually everyone, every single person in the world has fat. But each of us has different amounts.”
Her brother: ” Oh right! I have some to protect my big muscles! But you have more than me”
Me: “Yes, that’s true. Some people have a lot, and others don’t have very much. But that doesn’t mean that one person is better than the other, do you both understand?
Both: “yes, mama”
Me: “so can you repeat what I said”
Them: “yes! I shouldn’t say someone is fat because you can’t be just fat, but everyone HAS fat and it’s okay to have different fat”
Me: “exactly right!”
Them: “can we go back to the pool now?”
Me: no ??
Each moment these topics come up I have to choose how I’m going to handle them. Fat is not a bad word in our house. If I shame my children for saying it then I am proving that it is an insulting word and I continue the stigma that being fat is unworthy, gross, comical and undesirable.
Since we don’t call people fat as an insult in my household, I have to assume she internalised this idea from somewhere or someone else. Our children are fed ideas from every angle, you have to understand that that WILL happen: at a friends house whose parents have different values, watching a tv show or movie, overhearing someone at school- ideas about body image are already filtering through their minds. It is our job to continue to be the loudest, most accepting, positive and CONSISTENT voice they hear. So that it can rise above the rest.
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Just do you!
And the internet was not far behind, they applauded Allison with these comments:
1. Not only for kids, even adults need to learn from this!
2. Respect is above everything!
3. Indeed, a role model!
Now that’s the correct way of teaching kids to accept people irrespective of whether they are fat or thin, fair or dark, tall or short. We need to spread love and embrace people for who they are.
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