This Woman’s Explanation Of ‘Consent’ Is A Must Read For People Who Can’t Take A NO!

Our society has a very warped notion of consent. Many of us believe that somehow, the clothes you wear, the way you talk, the amount you socialise, whether you consume alcohol or if you smoke, imply consent. As a people, we tend to take a lot of things for granted. Short clothes – she wants it. Doing shots – she’s asking for it. Smoking cigarettes – she totally needs it. WHY? and HOW?… and WTF?!

For inexplicable reasons, society doesn’t seem to understand explicit consent when you think about rape. So Nafisa Ahmed has taken a much simpler approach:

1. No answer ≠ Yes

If you ask me for $5, and I'm too drunk to say yes or no, it's not okay to then go take $5 out of my purse… Just because I didn't say no.

— nafisa (@thatxxv) August 16, 2016

 

2. Consent under threat is NOT consent.

If you put a gun to my head to get me to give you $5, you still stole $5. Even if I physically handed you $5.

— nafisa (@thatxxv) August 16, 2016

 

3. Doesn’t work that way, does it?

If I let YOU borrow $5, that doesn't give the right for your FRIEND to take $5 out of my purse.
"But you gave him some, why can't I?"

— nafisa (@thatxxv) August 16, 2016

 

4. Lack of evidence won’t change what you’ve done. 

If you steal $5 and I can't prove it in court, that does NOT mean you didn't steal $5.

— nafisa (@thatxxv) August 16, 2016

 

5. So why should a woman’s body be any different?

Just because I gave you $5 in the past, doesn't mean I have to give you $5 in the future.

— nafisa (@thatxxv) August 16, 2016

 

6. RIGHT?

And to think a man said "Well she sat on his lap & went to his house." Okay, if I ask you to hold my purse, does that mean you can take $?

— nafisa (@thatxxv) August 16, 2016

Just because it happened before, or she did it with a friend, or she made “certain gestures”, does not make her your property to have your way with. You wouldn’t treat money that way, then why a woman’s body?